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Frum or not..?? 28 Jan 2024 23:49 #407745

yankybp OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 3 Karma: 0	Hello everyone! I love you all! I hope you’re doing good! I am 19 frum and chasidish, im struggling very hard with P&M, SSA, and even in person kind of stuff.. its the first time im stepping in here and i hope and hope that i will get my help i need asap! Im feeling so hopeless and so confused who i am.. and what i need to do.. anybody who can understand me?
	Last Edit: 28 Jan 2024 23:50 by yankybp.

Re: Frum or not..?? 28 Jan 2024 23:58 #407747

frank lee OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 3 Karma: 1	You came to the right place! We are with you! You have more strength than you realize and support is a big key! Kol Hakavod for taking this step of reaching out!

Re: Frum or not..?? 28 Jan 2024 23:59 #407748

yankybp OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 3 Karma: 0	Thanks so much! It wasn’t easy! My first time writing about it!

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 00:06 #407749

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Hello,

Welcome aboard. Make yourself comfortable here, we are all strugglers each with their own.
There are alot of chevra here who struggle with SSA. start posting and sharing.. we are all with u!

P.s. Can u pls change the subject name to "Frum!!".. You are definitely struggling and may even been acting out, but it does not define who you are.. on the contrary, YOU ARE PRECIOUS SOUL seeking to help urself.

Last Edit: 29 Jan 2024 00:14 by willdoit.

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 00:10 #407750

yankybp OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 3 Karma: 0	I don’t know the guidelines and what im allowed to share
	Last Edit: 29 Jan 2024 00:10 by yankybp.

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 00:15 #407751

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Welcome you've come to the right place.
Agree with willdoit you definitely can get rid of the question .
The struggle doesn't define who you are - the success that you will have from putting in the work, is what will define you.

Feel free to post whatever you feel will be helpful while keeping the details as vague (clean) as possible
Do some reading on some other threads to see what the standards are.
Hatzlocha!!

May you slide down the banister of happiness and get many splinters of success up your career

Feel free to send me an owl, a howler, or even a Crumple-Horned Snorkack to Iamredfaced@gmail.com

The Red Face

Last Edit: 29 Jan 2024 00:16 by redfaced.

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 00:24 #407754

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Welcome, Read and Post on the SSA forums.

You're not the only one.

Hatzlacha!

Here to see what works for others and a good shmooze.
Always here to share my journey N' what works for me.
Feel free to reach out 24/6 charlesbosgod@gmail.com
One day at a time! Today is what counts. RULE 62. It’s the first drink that gets me drunk.
“Yesterday is the past, tomorrow is the future and [a] mystery.Today matters most”
One lust drink is too many and a thousand isn't enough.
**Its a part of me, not who I am**

Last Edit: 29 Jan 2024 00:25 by crabapple18.

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 00:38 #407756

yitzchokm Current streak: 418 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 679	Welcome aboard. Kol Hakavod for taking the courage and posting. It might take some time, determination and courage but many people like you have broken free through GYE. Wishing you great success on your journey to freedom. Keep on posting and sharing.
	https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/399000-My-long-journey

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 00:48 #407757

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yankybp wrote on 28 Jan 2024 23:49:

Hello everyone! I love you all! I hope you’re doing good! I am 19 frum and chasidish, im struggling very hard with P&M, SSA, and even in person kind of stuff.. its the first time im stepping in here and i hope and hope that i will get my help i need asap! Im feeling so hopeless and so confused who i am.. and what i need to do.. anybody who can understand me?

My dear holly brother,

My brothers here and myself surely understand you. Kudos to you for reaching out, this is a place of growth. Welcome to the club, look around, there a lot of good information. Stick around, post, and connect.

Its life changing!

Wish you much Hatzlocha,

You can win the fight, but I'll have to live with the loser.

Any excuse you use for yourself, you must be willing to use for your wife.

Not Always can I understand others, but I can always respect their wishes.

You're human, it's okay.

One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other.

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 13:47 #407791

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Welcome! It sounds like you're struggling with your identity as frum because of your struggles. Please check out these great free resources that are helpful especially for this:

1) The Battle of the Generation: a sensational free ebook that seriously gets you excited to fight and win this fight. It's a real game-changer.

2) The Fight: an incredible audio series from Rabbi Shafier.

Links are below in my signature.
Wishing you much success!

In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 14:34 #407794

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yankybp wrote on 28 Jan 2024 23:49:

Hi & Welcome!
Do you feel comfortable talking to a mentor on the phone? There are a few good people here that are available for you. The fact is that getting out of isolation and being open and honest with another human being is one of the most affective steps a person can take for REAL recovery.

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @ ahavayirah@gmail.com

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 18:55 #407814

eerie Current streak: 853 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1606	Yanky, all I can add is my own WELCOME! Looking forward to watching you go upward!
	Feel free to say hi. My email is 1gimpelovitz@gmail.com

Re: Frum or not..?? 29 Jan 2024 20:04 #407823

yiftach Current streak: 364 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 347 Karma: 31	Welcome!!! You're in the right place! Surrounded by likeminded people who can relate to your struggle! Stick around and bon voyage!
	Looking forward to get to know you better! Email me @ yiftach1609@gmail.com or call/text 347-201-4989 (Google voice) My story is unfolding here "יפתח ה' לך את אוצרו הטוב"