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What am I supposed to do? 25 Dec 2023 14:30 #405601

tryingtobeholy
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Hi everyone!
I am an 18 year old Bochur, I'm out of Yeshiva for a while, and I'm desperately searching for a suitable job for myself but I'm just getting stuck with "potential" jobs. Basically, besides the fact that many times I'm dead bored, I'm also frustrated and feeling bad about myself, feeling rejected. I don't have any friends who I can speak to on a daily basis. My relationship with my parents is not too great either. My father I don't talk to at all. My mother is a different story. I'm struggling with Yiddishkeit too. I don't Daven, don't say Berachos, and I'm just sitting and wondering what am I supposed to do to hold myself back from getting onto porn for some soothing?

Re: What am I supposed to do? 25 Dec 2023 14:31 #405602

tryingtobeholy OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 10 Karma: 1	I don't really have anyone who understands me, who I can relate to and who can offer guidance. Not a friend, not a mentor...

Re: What am I supposed to do? 25 Dec 2023 14:49 #405609

ainshumyeiush Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 311 Karma: 26	You came to the right place. Ive also been thrown out/rejected from a few yeshivas, and sitting around feeling like a failure sucks. I cant give you any advice, but if you need someone to commiserate with, im here. and don't think that you are never going to be anything, i honestly believe that going through those tough times is what made me become a better person.
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Re: What am I supposed to do? 25 Dec 2023 14:56 #405610

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tryingtobeholy wrote on 25 Dec 2023 14:31:

I don't really have anyone who understands me, who I can relate to and who can offer guidance. Not a friend, not a mentor...

It’s a lousy place to be. I’m familiar with many of the resources out there. If you’re interested in knowing more I can let you know.

Here to see what works for others and a good shmooze.
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Re: What am I supposed to do? 25 Dec 2023 15:10 #405613

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tryingtobeholy wrote on 25 Dec 2023 14:30:

Welcome chaver! You seem to be in great pain. We are here for you. At GYE we don't judge anyone and hopefully you'll be able to find great inspiration as well as find great new friends here - and you never know... maybe we'll help you find a job as well...

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
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Re: What am I supposed to do? 25 Dec 2023 15:47 #405617

redfaced Current streak: 540 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1064 Karma: 51	If you are looking for someone who understands you and cares about you - you'll not find anyone better than HHM. Worth a try reach out to him
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Re: What am I supposed to do? 25 Dec 2023 18:45 #405639

zzz613 OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 44 Karma: 2	hi and welcome! its really brave of you to write this, and this itself shows that your fighter and im sure you will ultimately see hatzlacha!!

Re: What am I supposed to do? 25 Dec 2023 18:56 #405641

eerie Current streak: 822 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1569	I second the motion that redfaced put forth. Reach out to HHM. Michelgelner@gmail.com Trust me, you won't regret it!
	Feel free to say hi. My email is 1gimpelovitz@gmail.com Last Edit: 25 Dec 2023 18:56 by eerie.

Re: What am I supposed to do? 25 Dec 2023 19:24 #405648

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tryingtobeholy wrote on 25 Dec 2023 14:30:

Reach out directly to a few of the chevra here. It’s a great start. And focus on the positive.

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Re: What am I supposed to do? 26 Dec 2023 03:55 #405687

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 2888 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 4042	Welcome. Boy do we understand you. Yi'ush is debilitating....
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Re: What am I supposed to do? 26 Dec 2023 14:42 #405716

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Welcome!
It's incredible that you are trying to become better or not get worse at least, I was in yeshiva not so long ago and I remember how it feels without friends, no davening, no brachos.... but don't beat yourself up, try your best and don't give up! maybe take 5 minutes a day to speak ti hashem in your own words, and if you don't want to speak to him because you feel he hates you because of what you are going through, it's ok and you can tell him that as well.
As others have recommended, reach out!

Stay strong! we are with you.
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