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Letting out my secret 18 Mar 2022 04:43 #378755

Hi, my story has been held inside me for my entire life. I saw this forum and read through so many struggles and decided to share my story.
This is very hard for me but its something i must finally share.
I dont remember exact dates and how old i was which also bothers me but here goes....
i was about 12 or 13 or 14 years old ... i felt this crazy rush and felt something forcing out of me. I quickly went to the barhroom to check and just saw thick liquid which i didnt know of it yet but was sperm. 
im trembling while writing this.
i do what some might do my age and decided to look what it was on my moms phone. Thats how i learnt about sperm.
I decided to improvise and started to do the same humping motion on a pillow face down from me. 
I felt extremely terrible all my life holding this. At one side, i had no idea what i was doing but on the other side i knew it felt good. 
After that, i went on to see bad images which escalated to porn. Im currently fighting the porn battle and am finding great solutions on here.

thank you for reading my story.
Last Edit: 18 Mar 2022 11:42 by chaimmod.

Re: Letting out my secret 18 Mar 2022 06:13 #378757

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Hello and welcome to GYI!

I hope you can find support here and that letting out your story can help you reach some sense of peace.
Last Edit: 18 Mar 2022 06:16 by tehufn. Reason: Clarity

Re: Letting out my secret 18 Mar 2022 06:23 #378758

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HashemHelpMePlease wrote on 18 Mar 2022 04:43:
Hi, my story has been held inside me for my entire life. I saw this forum and read through so many struggles and decided to share my story.
This is very hard for me but its something i must finally share.
I dont remember exact dates and how old i was which also bothers me but here goes....
i was about 12 or 13 or 14 years old ... i felt this crazy rush and felt something forcing out of me. I quickly went to the barhroom to check and just saw thick liquid which i didnt know of it yet but was sperm. 
im trembling while writing this.
i do what some might do my age and decided to look what it was on my moms phone. Thats how i learnt about sperm.
I decided to improvise and started to do the same humping motion on a pillow face down from me. 
I felt extremely terrible all my life holding this. At one side, i had no idea what i was doing but on the other side i knew it felt good. 
After that, i went on to see bad images which escalated to porn. Im currently fighting the porn battle and am finding great solutions on here..

Welcome!

I gotta commend you for writing and sharing your story, Its definitely not easy to "put it out there". 

Thanks to GYE there are many tools, audio and articles at your disposal.
Dont take it for granted.

IYH you will find what tools work and what doesn't work.
Stay connected and keep updating the chevra on your journey
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Last Edit: 18 Mar 2022 11:43 by chaimmod.

Re: Letting out my secret 18 Mar 2022 12:47 #378761

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Welcome! Please check out these great free resources: 
ebook- The Battle of the Generation 
Audio series- The Fight
They're very good to start with.
See below in my signature for the links.

​Hatzlocha!
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation 
https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: 
https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Re: Letting out my secret 18 Mar 2022 14:28 #378763

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Welcome!

Although your story is unique (as all of ours is), you are perfectly normal!
I, too, thought that I was holding on to a terrible secret - during the decades preceding my joining the GYE community of tzadikim...

We've got your back, brother!
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ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
jackz90dys@gmail.com

Re: Letting out my secret 18 Mar 2022 18:12 #378766

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Welcome to the forum so many of us were in your place just a short time ago.  It is a great place to connect and to get tips and inspiration.  We look forward to getting to know you as you learn how to deal with this in a positive way.
vehkam7@gmail.com

guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/375452-Work-in-progress

The Battle of the Generation by Hillel S. has been a huge help for me.  Message me to find out how you can receive a free copy.



some of the experiences I write about may make it easier to identify me.  This is ok.  I trust that if anyone discovers my identity they will keep it to themselves.  If you do realize that you  know me, I am completely comfortable and welcome you acknowledging me and my struggle in person.

Re: Letting out my secret 20 Mar 2022 04:07 #378781

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Sounds just like me. Welcome to GYE. 

Re: Letting out my secret 20 Mar 2022 05:12 #378785

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Welcome
you defenitely are in the right place now
there is nothing like the gye oilam
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

Check out easypeasymethod.org

My thread
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/375231-looking-for-chizuk

Re: Letting out my secret 25 Mar 2022 18:42 #379093

Think I started almost the exact same way. Feel free to be in touch by email if you ever need anything.
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


My thread: 
Aiming to be better

Feel free to contact me at evedhashem1836@gmail.com

Re: Letting out my secret 27 Mar 2022 05:21 #379120

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Wow! Thank you for sharing. My story is similar. I didn’t think to look up what it was though. Instead I just continued doing it. Eventually I realized what I was doing, but was already hooked. By that time I had already gotten into porn to assist... and couldn’t get out for more than 10 years. Had spent a long time looking for something like GYE and was so happy when I found it a few years ago.
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