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Longtime struggler, finally doing something 28 Dec 2020 23:31 #360042

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Hi all,

I am a recently married guy in my mid-20s and I have struggled since I was 13. A couple of weeks ago I admitted my problem to someone else (my therapist) for the first time, and today he suggested several steps I could take, including joining a community for support, so here I am!

Besides the halachic and marriage-related reasons to go on this journey, I have also experienced a lot of mental distress that is likely tied to my struggle. I hope that I can free myself from this addiction and grow as a Jew and as a person.

Re: Longtime struggler, finally doing something 28 Dec 2020 23:43 #360044

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Welcome!

First of all, mazal tov on you recent marriage!
It's a big deal to share this struggle with anybody and it takes real strength to take the steps you are taking to get help, good for you! GYE is an amazing community full of amazing people and has really been helpful for me and thousands of others. Take your time to get acquainted with the website and the GYE system and enjoy the ride! Be"H you will find the help you are looking for. Hatzlacha! 

-Determinedtowin

Re: Longtime struggler, finally doing something 29 Dec 2020 01:09 #360053

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Welcome!
You are well on your way to freedom from this habit just by sticking around here. Read the forums, post your struggles, acquaint yourself with the tools offered here, get advice from the veterans and empathy from the rookies, and you will iyh see much Hatzlacha!
I am a bochur with a passion for meaning and truth, searching to remain clean and live a holy and fulfilling life.

If you are reading this-you have a friend in me.
Feel free to PM me and I'll share my offline contact information, so we can call and text. I'd be honored if you'd trust me with your story and promise to support you in any way I possibly can.
I've been on GYE for over 7 years. "I may walk slow, but I never walk back" (-Abraham Lincoln?).
(For the background and meaning of my username- see Tanya chapter 15).

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Re: Longtime struggler, finally doing something 29 Dec 2020 01:34 #360054

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Hi! Welcome to the community! You will find a lot of supportive people here. Looking forward to your posts! 

Also please ch out the following great free resources:

Great book (ebook) for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation.

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

Also, you can sign up for the daily GYE Boost emails/ whatsapps at www.gyeboost.org.
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge
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