Hi everyone: I am married 39 , I have children and  I have being with this problem since a teenager, when I got in tshuba I stopped this addiction, but when I started having problems in my marriage got back in this problem again, and it got worst, my wife discovered it!! Since then we couldn't stop having problems and discussions, even when I was clean, we have being separated for six months and my problem is getting worst. I need to stop this, if we can get back together or not I need to get better and stop destroying my neshamah. If anyone have comments please help me. Thank you all and I am glad to find this site 

Sorry to hear that. May God be with you. What have you tried to stop? What has worked? What hasn't? Perhaps read the gye handbook and see if any ideas there speak to you.

Godspeed

I can definitely resonate with you. I'm 30 and  my wife recently found out after years of struggling. I'm on day 10 with gye and I feel just engaging with others in similar situations has helped me get to day 10 and kept me accountable. Glad I found this site as well.

wishing you much success!  

Welcome. It should be with hatzlocha!

Unsolicited psychological advice for all those people whose wives discovered them, and especially if separation is a result of that- go for professional help right away. With issues like these being all too commonplace in today’s day and age, divorce or separation don’t have to be the result of this. A good therapist can work with you, and sometimes a qualified Rov can help too. Don’t go it alone. 

Exactly! Nothing personal and welcome but If your wife busted you get the beep off gye and get help from a professional immediately! And it was worth you finding gye just to realize that it's normal what you're going thru and it'll be alright if you get help from a great sex therapist/marriage counselor etc

therapy might help him save his marriage which is very important but if its a 20-30 year habit he might need more than therapy to help stopping to act out...
He may find those tools here, or he may be led from here to a 12 step program or some other type of recovery program that will help him kick the habit.
Friend if you are ready to quit and truly want to quit, its possible.
My masturbation habit turned into a 30+ year downward spiraling addiction.
Good luck!!