Hi everyone i have been going through a tough family situation were there is alot of pressure around and i feel its geting to me does anyone have advice or just a good word please drop by
another question my usage of the computer is in studying and as those pressures are building up i find it very hard to concentrate on my studies and fear if i will i might be tempted to slipup in order to take my mind off of it should i rather not study and stay around on this site or rather buckle down and put up a good fight?

Hey ayidel, great that you’re aware of what’s going on and trying to manage in a healthy way.

Maybe share a little bit more detailed what exactly this family situation is, and we could help?

And with the studying, does the studying require the internet?
and if it does, how many websites? Can’t you make a whitelist?
definitely don’t just stay on gye. You have to keep living, which means studying for your tests and being successful. But you have to take Shmira steps not to fall.

Thanks the family situation is an all out fight betweem sibblings and parents it seems parent might have a disorder but is not even willing to hear about going to help but rather lashing back as powerfull as possible
my studying requires internet as its a self do course by staying on GYE i meant for a while till it passes maybe a week or two

As an aside does anyone have experience with a bpd parent and will have ways to get info.

i would recommend this book called i hate you don't leave me 
probably worth staying away from the lashing out and screaming try to surrender it
was this person diagnosed or it's an assumption

bpd is very tough to deal with. may Hashem help you deal with all the fallout.

The parent was not diagnosed as they refuse to believe anything is wrong with them but the assumption is not just a wild guess but rather one that was worked out with a therapist and a family member from the wider circle who has experience with such issues and with the person involved there is some 9 symptoms to bpd of which having 5 is considered already bpd and the person shows strong similarities to 7 so it seems to be a strong case  

hatzlacha ayidel

sorry i am trying to qoute and got it wrong

tzomah wrote on 07 Feb 2018 21:59:

i found many consider the book to be outdated whats your opinion on that

no opinion at all 
i just have the book and read it although i read it awhile ago maybe ask the therapist
anyways i wish you much hatslocho as bpd is painful to deal with

Hi everyone i will be reaching my half mark of 45 days this sunday and this moment is one of the greatest in my march forward i haven't ever had a serious count before i started the 90 day chart and feared i might not even have the power to resist any length of time b"h since i signed up i have never looked back and i even succeded in not browsing for anything not work related no news (even though i love to be updated and there was a lot going on)no history and anything else i feel free and in control although i still fear the tomorrow which might be a good thing i must thank all the great people on the site who have helpped me acheive this either by posting or by reading different threads which i found was a tremendous help

Super news! May Hashem help you continue!

Wow that's great! Keep it up! ODAAT!

 Yankel!

hatzlacha,keep it up ,youre shlepping us up too!