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Did that already thanks
Does anyone know if its possible to become addicted to the GYE site i just seem to love to spend time with such great guys thanks everybody

youll never guess where i was this summer ..........nope guess again.ok ill tell you, a beach !first time in my life during the summer.ieeyc have you gone mad?! calm down, ill tell you what happened. i work with invalids who the the manager is a modern guy who probably ALWAYS goes to the beach  there was  a couple of modern jews and some goyim on the staff and one other frum yid ,his Rebbe said no way can he go and stayed oin the car and got in trouble with the manager ,i called a posek and  told him the situation , embarresed, thinking this rov probably thinks that im such a bum to even ask the shaila,i told  the Rov  im ready to listen to whatever he says ,but i just said that maybe its the same thing as a dr.working on a lady since hes busy with his work  ,he doesnt think bad things, and the Rov was maskim to me ,and said make sure to concetrate  on the individuals that they dont run in the ocean,and thats what i did , i did not even see pritzus ,the kids WERE  trying to go to the ocean , my eyes were focused on ,wheres reuvan , shimon , WHERES shimon?! i was also  embarresed  to look with my hat and jacket ' anyway the reason why im writing this  is if your coming to the states with a wife  and a baby in a carriage , i second the motion of Hashem h.m.,great idea ,but if youre coming with  a bunch of  little  kids and you cant get lost in a niggun or shiur  try to focus on their safety wheres he running etc.airports are big and dangerous where kids could get lost C"V, it might work chazak ve`ematz

I am actually in the second situation with many kids so thanks for that i'll keep you guys posted how it went

Heard an idea wondered if anyone tried it instead of saying a straight out NO when you have a strong lust attack(or whatever its called when you feel yourself needing something badly)
just put it off with time tell yourself i will do it just not right now another hour or so and in that way it passes easier 
It sounds good who knows

A few people wrote about this here and said that it works for them. I'm not sure that it works for me, but I'm sure it's works for some people.

Delaying helps by 1 - putting you in control, and 2- showing yourself you dont need it.

Try taking off your glasses (if you wear any).
Perhaps get a night flight, where you can spend the time sleeping.
If you can afford it, fly first class. There are less people there  to look at, and the seats are further apart, avoiding accidental contact with people.
Personally, I find that when I am doing nothing, I start to fantasize. Bring enough material to keep yourself occupied.
Hatzlachah!!

מחשבות עצה תיכון, ובתחבולות עושה מלחמה
From Mishlay (I think)
Any way of getting the yetzer off our back is a valid trick! For some it's to say, not now maybe in 1 hour. For others, I can't now because....fill in whatever excuse you need.
It's VERY hard to fight the yetzer head on, it's easier to sidetrack him. Personally, if I have a strong desire, it's hard for me to say, wait 1 hour. It's not as hard to say, I can't now, I have a meeting in 20 minutes that I can't be late for, or, I can't now, I will get my clothes dirty, or, not now people will see/find out, or what will everyone think if a Jew in a kippah/black hat/suit is doing this?
Whatever sidetracking works for you, is totally 100% לכתחילה.

Hashem Help Me wrote on 10 Jan 2018 21:48:

What i felt it helped was more in the way that at the moment of the attack you don't have the clarity to fight back but by pushing it off the temptation becomes less burning and eventually cools enough to be able to make a rational decision

well said, please start Davening NOW that you shouldnt see devarim asurim

leolam yakdim  adam tefila latzara 

we all  will  be watching, dont dissappoint us:smiley:

Hi everybody just came back from my trip b"h sucssesfull both ways thanks for your encouragement will post more when i have more time

welcome back! we knew you could ! !          
hatzlacha!

ayidel wrote on 09 Jan 2018 15:41:

I second that notion.
But hey, probably worst things to be addicted to than GYE right?

While i did use the idea to remove my contacts and that along with being occupied with my kids really helped i must say that line from ieeyc don't dissapoint will be watching helped me even more than all that as any time i had a desire to just look aside i thought what will i report when i return is it really worth it to get knocked of a streak just for that short "fun" and that really knocked it out for me 
i thank you all and again cannot express enough my joy in finding this site