riskbh, dont worry about the sex life for now, u work on ur lust w the gye chevra, & the exvitemnt wil slowly start rolling in. thts how it works for us lusters the wife feels it. u can spk 2 dov about this whole topic. chek out the bal habtim forum for marries guys ul c thts wat we all say. theres real hope but only after u let go!