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helpshere 26 Jun 2016 23:31 #290738

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Hi there I've been struggling for some time already, I've done the 90 day chart a few times but after that I will fall over time... I don't feel it ever getting easier over time like it is said (after 90 days...) I'm not married though I'm coming of age and I need to get a handle on this before I even think of it. Any help will be appreciated. Thank you very much! 

Re: helpshere 26 Jun 2016 23:34 #290739

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helpshere wrote on 26 Jun 2016 23:31:
Hi there I've been struggling for some time already, I've done the 90 day chart a few times but after that I will fall over time... I don't feel it ever getting easier over time like it is said (after 90 days...) I'm not married though I'm coming of age and I need to get a handle on this before I even think of it. Any help will be appreciated. Thank you very much! 

I hear you.
Tell us please....how were you able to do those 90 day times?
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Re: helpshere 26 Jun 2016 23:49 #290742

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I'm not really sure... I would guess its because I was hoping it would get easier and therefore was able to push... Maybe?? But when I see it only getting harder I seem to fall lots faster
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In what ways is it getting harder? Has every day of the past 93 days been just as hard?

Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 00:01 #290744

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helpshere wrote on 26 Jun 2016 23:49:
I'm not really sure... I would guess its because I was hoping it would get easier and therefore was able to push... Maybe?? But when I see it only getting harder I seem to fall lots faster

So you were filling your engine with hope!?
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Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 00:04 #290745

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I'm not suppose to be hopefull?? 

Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 00:06 #290747

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No the need doesn't come as often but when it does its so much harder to control

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helpshere wrote on 27 Jun 2016 00:04:
I'm not suppose to be hopefull?? 

You can be hopeful, but hope without action is useless. What actionable things did you do for sobriety?
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Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 00:53 #290757

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I have a filter. I did the neder.... And have guards to keep me from dubble looking

Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 01:10 #290758

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I'd just like to point out that you did nothing to change yourself. All you did (which are good things) was create preventive fences. אין אפוטרופיס לעריות. 
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Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 03:10 #290775

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Hi brother.
Could it be you're expecting perfection, and when you see that you're not perfect you just give up? 

Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 04:10 #290780

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Interesting, how would you advise me to go further? Starting tonight being my first. 

Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 04:11 #290781

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Well I def see ill hold up for some time but when I fall it will take me some time till I feel ready to get back up again... So in a way yes ! 

Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 04:38 #290783

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helpshere wrote on 27 Jun 2016 04:10:
Interesting, how would you advise me to go further? Starting tonight being my first. 

It's unclear who you are responding to.
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Re: New member introduction 27 Jun 2016 04:40 #290784

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helpshere wrote on 27 Jun 2016 04:10:
Interesting, how would you advise me to go further? Starting tonight being my first. 

Check out the handbook.
It's actually more how you decide to go further. 
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