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New member - Colin
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Re: New member - Colin 25 Oct 2020 01:55 #356639

  • ColinColin
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I made it to one year clean.

Still have to be on guard and take each day as it comes, because even today I had the urge to fall.

But I made it to one year, even though when I joined this Forum I used to fall several times per week.

I used four main methods to keep clean:

1 - HALT.

If you are

Hungry 
Angry (Resentful)
Lonely
Tired

then you are likely to fall, because you feel down and seek a quick high.
This method is an early warning system.

2.) MINDFULNESS

Treat the urge to fall as an external thought, not an intrinsic part of you.
Like a cloud, which floats away.
This method is very useful.

3.) REPLACEMENT

Distract the urge by doing something positive.
Call a friend whom you know is lonely, study, go for a walk.

4.) WILLPOWER

Only in emergencies and only once or twice per year.
You can use all you emotional strength to confront the urge to fall head on, but this is very tiring and lasts only for about 5 minutes.
Not to be relied on, it is the least successful of the methods I have used, but it has worked for me.

Thank you Hashem, and thank you all on here who have supported and inspired me.
Last Edit: 25 Oct 2020 23:13 by ColinColin.

Re: New member - Colin 25 Oct 2020 03:47 #356645

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Mazel tov! Beautiful milestone and thanks for posting what worked for you.
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: New member - Colin 25 Oct 2020 12:51 #356650

  • Grant400
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Congratulations! Amazing! You are an inspiration! Thanks for sharing!

May you succeed to remain clean for year after year lasting a lifetime.

Re: New member - Colin 25 Oct 2020 13:36 #356653

  • Dave M
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Mazol Tov!  So nice to hear from you.  Missed having you around here. 
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