how can we identify edicted person?

there are a lot of ways. by his head & eye movment. by his talking.

here is a well known & familiar men. named אחשורוש. we all know him form the מגילה. yes, the same one that many will think he might have been addicted. he called his wife to the משתה. & we all know how & why. we also know how later on he spent his nights with random girls

דוד לא ביקש אלא נערה אחת כל אדם הראה לשלוחיו את בתו אולי תיטב בעיניו ואחשורוש כסיל צוה לקבץ את כולן הכל יודעין שלא יקח אלא אחת ואת כולן יבעל מאן דהוה ליה ברתא מטמרה

what else? his own words.
הללו אומרות מדיות נאות הללו אומרות פרסיות נאות אמר להם אחשורוש "כלי שאני משתמש בו"! לא אשתי, כלי בעלמא! שאני "משתמש" בו! לא יותר

Hi user welcome to gye.
Are you asking about yourself, or your trying to identify if another person is addicted, lets say your son, husband or.....

Maybe tell us a bit about yourself, you can feel safe just stay anonymous.

Reading the handbook can help you a lot.

Private questions can be sent to gye.help@gmail.com

If your better in Hebrew there is a Hebrew site as well.
(see on the top of the main page or look up for שמור עיניך on google)

שמור עיניך www.gye.org.il/
כלים לגמילה מפורנו (כולל התמכרות לפורנוגרפיה וסקס). הכלים פותחו ע"י מיטב המומחים בתחום ההתמכרויות, ומתוך ניסיונם של מכורים. השירותים חינם ואנונימיים לחלוטין.

Is that marriage legal?

today in the us everything is legal. you may need to find which state allows what or wait for the KUSHI in the white house to make it illigal for states to make this Inyunim iligal

Next Q, is this kosher? I also had trouble following the husband/wife example before.

user wrote:


Hi User
A small advice if your not struggling with these issues like you mentioned, I don't know if it's healthy for you to be on GYE.
Think about it.
I wish you great Hatzluche in life

user wrote:


Speaking for myself having people here who never act out feels like making fun of us. It would be like me going to a weight-watchers group and standing on the side saying "me? No I've never had a problem with my weight, I'm just here to watch you guys getting weighed in. Carry on."

That being said, I wonder why someone who doesn't struggle with this issue would be interested in it at all. A woman once went to Samuel Johnson (author of the first dictionary) and complained that he included rude words. He replied "well, you're the one who looked them up."

You can be honest here. If you struggle with lust you can open up to understanding people. If you don't struggle with it, I'd ask you to have enough respect for other people to just leave us to get better.

Not to be rude but please have rachmonus on us who have opened, we open up for chizuk, not for an interesting thriller.i a would wonder what the heter would be to read threads that discuss these issues if there is no real toeles if you don'tstruggle. Please don't stay if you don't struggle. For the same reason sa meetings are only for those who need them. Please don't take this the wrong way but it is embarrassing enough even when we know that we're among peers who share our struggle .
Hatzlochah

It never even occurred to me that someone might actually join GYE and not have "that problem". Maybe that's not in fact the case here. How do I know?

In the spirit of trying to learn from everyone, though, I personally don't see the harm. Maybe I'm just naive.