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Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 31 Aug 2014 19:09 #238373

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Trekkerman,
I've been away for a long time.
Skep directed my to your thread.
I went through a similar situation with my wife.
If you have access the the married section, you can read the thread here:
guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/129811-HIGH-INFIDELITY
Hatzlocha,
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Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 02 Sep 2014 22:40 #238532

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TehillimZugger wrote:
startrekuser wrote:
Yeah, I know the song and I'm way ahead of you. I thought of that. That's pretty funny that you mentioned it. I should try it, but then again I would have to buy a subscription.

It's almost two months later, did you do that?!


No, I have a lot of other issues to deal with. See my thread in Married Men section called "I envy you guys" or something like that. I'm not dealing with normal here. I'm convinced that I'm dealing with at least a mild form of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and have been focusing my efforts on how to deal with a BPD family member (my wife). It's very difficult.

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 02 Sep 2014 23:11 #238534

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hi there Startrukuser!!!

its great to see around again!!!

glad to hear your putting in the efforts to deal with life, how is it going are thing better at your end over the past month or so that you have been gone?

remember KOMT!!!!

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 02 Sep 2014 23:15 #238535

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Things are improved, but with a BPD, there's always something lurking. You never know when it's going to strike. My efforts are paying off, but it's all relative. Things are relatively good, but compared to a normal marriage, they stink.

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 03 Sep 2014 01:01 #238542

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dd - What's KOMT? I've struggled with falling about 1/week. I've finally gotten over the 1 week hump and I'm almost at two weeks. That's progress.

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 03 Sep 2014 03:01 #238555

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Keep On Monster Trucking!

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 03 Sep 2014 16:47 #238593

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That sure is progress!

What have you been doin' differently?

Help the rest of the oilam out!

Thanks and hatzlachah
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Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 04 Sep 2014 23:24 #238824

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Not much. I just think that when I'm preoccupied with other things (aka being very busy), my mind doesn't wander so much.

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 12 Sep 2014 16:51 #239442

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If you want better, just say so and we can brainstorm together.
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 30 Oct 2014 22:37 #242429

Hi Start,
Haven't seen any posts from you in a bit. Are you OK? I miss you.

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 30 Oct 2014 22:50 #242432

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Pisch oshe lmac hat

Perhaps 'start' watchin' regular television.
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Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 07 Nov 2014 03:46 #242887

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I'm good thanks. I've just been very busy. My mother-in-law passed away about 3 1/2 weeks ago. During the three weeks before that, she had been bed ridden by a broken hip. All this happened during the High Holidays and then I missed more work when she passed. As a result, I've been REALLY backed up and I'm also going away on Sunday for a 3 day business trip.

I should mention, that she lived with us for all these events, so it was particularly stressful and exhausting.

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 07 Nov 2014 04:30 #242893

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Oy, chaver, so sorry for your loss and pain of your wife, too, through all these things! My mom (she should live and be well to 120) broke a foot and lived w us for a while; my father a"h passed away and I stayed with him a lot of time (they both live out of town), etc, etc...beside the tragedy itself, these things put pressure on relationships.

G-d bless you both.
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 16 Nov 2014 10:11 #243514

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Why is not OK for a married man to have an affair? If the man's wife won't have sex with him and won't even let him touch her, what's his alternative? Suffering until death? It's not spilling seed. My wife stopped going to the mikvah. According to Breslev, Rabbi Brody, etc, I'm not even allowed to complain.
Last Edit: 16 Nov 2014 10:12 by startrekuser.

Re: BT on 90 day chart struggling with mental anguish 16 Nov 2014 10:19 #243516

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It certainly is a tough one.
sometimes I feel like you, although I go thru less than your situation.
May God be with you, and me.

b'hatzlachah
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