Firstly we all need to remember that this is a public anonymous forum, hashkafah should not be taken from just anyone.
Secondly, I happen to know the person you are talking about, I know him personally, we've met and talked a lot. He is a person who has tried verious things to stop his lusting and when he saw that they didn't work, he looked for something else, because he is not trying to be honorable, or have a good self esteem, or be able to have choice, he is trying to do what Hashem wants of him. Hashem wants him to stop looking at porn and masturbating, period. He is trying to change, he is a tzaddik. (really not relevant, but he doesn't look at himself as a tzaddik at all.)
Are you? You have used a method for a year and it's not working, are you willing to let go of your ego and your mind in order to do
the right thing? or is your "right" to have choice more important to you than to actually stay clean?
As for the rest of things you wrote, they are the opposite of what I have seen in many seforim, if you are interested you can PM me, there is no use in the public reading through it all.
ploni.almoni@gmx.com wrote:
I should add that if a person can choose between being a rasha and an "addict" he should choose the former. Because a rasha can change, for good, but an addict is stuck on his high horse for the rest of his life, even if he is clean and sober and recovered.
Don't understand that either, if the way I am going to stay clean is by admitting I am an addict, why do I care to have that label? if I'm clean I should be happy that the label addict is stopping me.
So to sumarize, why are you here?