time2stop wrote:
I strongly don't feel that my adiction was part of the problem although it didnt help.
Not for any of us to judge. But something to ponder:
The addiction was never the problem. The problem was the problem.
Huh? What I mean is that whatever discontent in life lead you to the addiction may have found its way into the marriage.
time2stop wrote:
In truth the thing I miss the most is the giving. I guess thats good considering to get over my temptations, from what I understand I should be giving even more. Less taking, not shure where that piece fits in but I must be taking more than I realize.
That's a very high madrega for an addict! We addicts tend to be takers, and give only when we think there will be a payoff.
And yes, checking women out in the street is an old habit that dies hard! when driving I just keep focused straight ahead like a laser. Sometimes for the last couple of seconds when I'm about to pass her in the car, I will close the one eye on the side she's on if it's safe. When walking and such, I find it helpful to look at something else, whether it be the sidewalk, a car across the street or whatever. Sometimes I will just close my eyes right when I'm passing her (a trick I learned from MT).
Hatzlocha!
Alex
