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I am lost 23 Feb 2012 01:01 #133591

I am lost
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Re: I am lost 23 Feb 2012 01:09 #133592

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Your not anymore!
I'm a newbie too; Post sign up day #3, and with the community and resources present, you are found.

What makes you think you are lost? Tell us your story, or read the ones here.  You are among friends.
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Re: I am lost 23 Feb 2012 01:11 #133593

i cant run arround and read so many stories.
i am offically tight in time.
i work many many hours a week.
but i am batteling like crazy and not getting anywhere
i have tried many things.
but i am lost now. 
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Re: I am lost 23 Feb 2012 01:43 #133595

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Next time you find free time, read other people's posts.  You won't have the time to fall then.
Or, if you do not want to "run around and read so many stories" write down your own and post it, and post the reasons you think you aren't getting anywhere, what you have tried, where have you failed, and what you are now taking on.
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Re: I am lost 23 Feb 2012 09:14 #133607

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gingy wrote on 23 Feb 2012 01:43:

You won't have the time to fall then.

good advice!
looking for P&M takes alot of time too
decide that just today instead of falling you will read a few posts
may hashem be with you on your journey to recovery

much love
LT
כֻּלָּנוּ גֻּיַּסְנוּ לְכָל הַחַיִּים,
מִשּׁוּרָה מְשַׁחְרֵר רַק הַמָּוֶת.
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Re: I am lost 23 Feb 2012 11:15 #133609

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לב נשבר wrote on 23 Feb 2012 01:11:

i cant run arround and read so many stories.
i am offically tight in time.
i work many many hours a week.
but i am batteling like crazy and not getting anywhere
i have tried many things.
but i am lost now.

My broken hearted friend
welcome aboard!
HKBH never turns away a broken heart.
Your Yetzer Hara has you running around with no time just to keep you away from HKBH. Much like Pharoh wanted the yidden to be so busy that they wouldnt thinking about breaking out of mitzrayim. GYE is your yetzias mitrayim. Take a minute or two. You'll be hooked and you'll see that you do have more time, and it can be used properly.
I  wish you the best, we are davening for you.
and here to help, just ask!
ישראל אע"פ שחטא ישראל הוא
If you're connected above, you won't fall down below - Reb Shlomo
ולבי חלל בקרבי
לולא האמנתי לראות בטוב ה' בארץ חיים
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Re: I am lost 23 Feb 2012 16:07 #133628

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Shalom! Welcome Aboard!



You obviously want to be helped, or you wouldn't have posted here saying, "I am lost".

Your help will come, we all got it, just KOP [Keep On Posting]!

Hoping to get to know you better,
TZ
?דער באשעפער לאווט מיך אייביג. וויפיל לאוו איך עהם
My Creator loves me at all times. How great is my love for him?
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Re: I am lost 23 Feb 2012 21:12 #133669

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shalom aleichem
if time is the issue, how about dedication 10 minutes a day to this website to help you..?
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Re: I am lost 24 Feb 2012 01:48 #133674

thank all of you for putting in time and effort to respond to my lost thread.
Yesterday I felt in deed lost. I feel LOST very often after doing again what i didn't want to do. After finding out again that I am powerless in this area.
but today i am in my second day clean on my private 90 day chart.
I do need a lot of chizuk.
No I don't have time. its not a joke!
i work very hard!
i will come and visit for a few minutes perhaps every day.
but to read other treads is not going to be my easiest task.
who ever will be so kind to try to help me in my thread with support and chizuk i will appreciate ey"h and bless them with the Bracha of TIZKU LEMITZVOIS ulemaisim tovim in all areas. Umein.

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Re: I am lost 24 Feb 2012 04:11 #133676

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You are no longer lost, you are HERE!

Use what time you have to read the handbooks, and keep posting. You're doing great so far!

And...Keep On Trucking!! (do you have time to find out what that means?)

Gevura!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends
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Re: I am lost 24 Feb 2012 06:32 #133683

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ב נשברL

Welcome Aboard!  I have had that lost feeling many times, hopefully now you can feel it start to change.

Here's a good recommendation to give you strength that takes no extra time.  Whenever you are walking somewhere outside or your home, be very  careful to 100% look away from women.  Consciously close your eyes, keep you eyes down, turn away etc. 

This should take no extra time, and will give you a feeling that you are doing something to help yourself, and could make you feel a bit better.  Could also help to keep you less triggered.

Keep in touch with us, your new chevra!
Good Shabbos!

Have2changeNOW


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Re: I am lost 24 Feb 2012 07:53 #133684

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לב נשבר wrote on 24 Feb 2012 01:48:

who ever will be so kind to try to help me in my thread with support and chizuk i will appreciate ey"h and bless them with the Bracha of TIZKU LEMITZVOIS ulemaisim tovim in all areas. Umein.

Umein!
I'll take that bracha and send one back to you!
There's a tefillah that we say in the chazaras Hashatz of the yomim noraim
and its applicable to this weeks parsha, and to all of us here at GYE.
it appears in 2 forms
אשר אימתך
and
אשר אומץ תהילתך
you must see it inside to get the full beauty of the tefillah
but in short we are saying to HKBH that you have the greatest malachim ready to say your praises and yet you want to hear from us, unworthy beings made out of dirt (and unfortunately sometimes full of dirt)
But that's exactly it HKBH wants a place to be here in this world, specifically where all the physicality and garbage is. He wants a place in our hearts! He wants to hear us, yes specifically us! We who are stuck in the lowest places! He wants us! He wants you! He wants to hear your praising him! He wants to hear you call to him!
ועשו לי מקדש ושכנתי בתוכם
In each and every one of us. No matter where we've been what we've seen or done!
He wants us! Specifically us!
He wants you!
The doors are always open. Come home! Open your broken heart and I bless you HKBH will come in despite your past, or should I say because of your past! He wants a place in your heart!
May you feel the connection today, this shabbos, and every day for the rest of your life!

ישראל אע"פ שחטא ישראל הוא
If you're connected above, you won't fall down below - Reb Shlomo
ולבי חלל בקרבי
לולא האמנתי לראות בטוב ה' בארץ חיים
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Re: I am lost 24 Feb 2012 07:57 #133685

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Thank You Gesher.

But I want to say something.

A LEIV NISHBAR CHODESH ADAR ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?
ben durdayah wrote on 07 Feb 2011 21:19:

A moiradige vort that I heard this afternoon (b'sheim HaRav Geldzahler I don't know if it's Shlit"a or Zatza"l):

The Gemara says "K'sheim shemishenichnas Av Mema'atin be'simcha, kach mishenichnas Adar Marbin Besimcha" (or something like that)

What would you do if you walked into a shteeble on the 3rd of Av and saw a group of chassidim sitting around a table eating meat, drinking wine, and listening to music?

Of course, you'd run over to them taken aback and say "Chevrah! Es past duch nisht! (This is inappropriate behavior) for the month of Av", and you'd show them the Shulchan Aruch where these laws are discussed.

If so, what are you supposed to do when you enter a shteeble/beis medrash/Jewish home on the 3rd of Adar and you see them walking around with the blues, shoulders down, nose drooping down to the floor etc. etc.

Obviously, you should be doing the same thing!


Of course, you'd run over to them taken aback and say "Chevrah! Es past duch nisht! (This is inappropriate behavior) for the month of Adar", and you'd show them the Shulchan Aruch where these laws are discussed, and maybe have a round or two of Mishe Mishe Mishe Nich Nas Adar...

Revving up our engines,

Love all of you,

E. ben Durdayah
?דער באשעפער לאווט מיך אייביג. וויפיל לאוו איך עהם
My Creator loves me at all times. How great is my love for him?
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Re: I am lost 24 Feb 2012 11:08 #133701

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you're right TZ
but the mitziyus is that he's nishbar
questioning how he could be that way in adar
may only further depress the situation
ישראל אע"פ שחטא ישראל הוא
If you're connected above, you won't fall down below - Reb Shlomo
ולבי חלל בקרבי
לולא האמנתי לראות בטוב ה' בארץ חיים
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Re: I am lost 29 Feb 2012 04:23 #133916

Gesher Tzar Meod wrote on 24 Feb 2012 07:53:

לב נשבר wrote on 24 Feb 2012 01:48:

who ever will be so kind to try to help me in my thread with support and chizuk i will appreciate ey"h and bless them with the Bracha of TIZKU LEMITZVOIS ulemaisim tovim in all areas. Umein.

Umein!
I'll take that bracha and send one back to you!
There's a tefillah that we say in the chazaras Hashatz of the yomim noraim
and its applicable to this weeks parsha, and to all of us here at GYE.
it appears in 2 forms
אשר אימתך
and
אשר אומץ תהילתך
you must see it inside to get the full beauty of the tefillah
but in short we are saying to HKBH that you have the greatest malachim ready to say your praises and yet you want to hear from us, unworthy beings made out of dirt (and unfortunately sometimes full of dirt)
But that's exactly it HKBH wants a place to be here in this world, specifically where all the physicality and garbage is. He wants a place in our hearts! He wants to hear us, yes specifically us! We who are stuck in the lowest places! He wants us! He wants you! He wants to hear your praising him! He wants to hear you call to him!
ועשו לי מקדש ושכנתי בתוכם
In each and every one of us. No matter where we've been what we've seen or done!
He wants us! Specifically us!
He wants you!
The doors are always open. Come home! Open your broken heart and I bless you HKBH will come in despite your past, or should I say because of your past! He wants a place in your heart!
May you feel the connection today, this shabbos, and every day for the rest of your life!

thank you so much for your kind warm heartwarming words i appreciate every word you wroth.
i did have a great day today.
and one day at a time i hope to grow.
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