When i used the term 'negative thinking', I didn't mean machsovos zaras about immorality at all. What I was referring to is thoughts like: "oh! This isn't going to work out".. Or "oh no!, now I'll never get that job, and my life won't be good", or "what are you crazy!?! Now we'll never get there in time!", or "the situation is really bad now", or "see! I knew I'm not so smart, I just paid too much! If I was really smart, I'd haggle like a REAL man",..or the real special one, "uh oh! If my kids keep this up, they'll never be talmidey chachamim" and "wow! Hashem is REALLY mad at me now"... Etc... You know; all the WONDERFULY NORMAL thoughts consistently spinning in the heads of SO MANY of our people! RACHMANA LITZLAN!!
THESE are the though patterns of G-d's chosen, 1st born, beloved people!?!?! BH for GYE that the REAL loving G-d, WHO HAS ALWAYS BEEN loving and compassionate is becoming the reality for our people...
'Self fulfilling prophecies' are VERY real... Like the mother who is always at her son's throat "you're gonna be on drugs when you're older!.. I know it!! You're gonna be on drugs!!!".."Kids like you are no good!!" So when the kids grows up and can finally get 'some fresh air outside', no wonder he goes right to seek 'comfort' with drugs and other stuff.
I know a girl who sent a text to a friend of mine saying "I hate my life" (she really meant it with great emotion: she really wanted 'out' of life)... 5 minutes later she was dead. NO, THIS IS NOT A JOKE OR EMBELLISHED STORY.. (Her reasons are for another time)
"Think good and it will be good" is not, and was never, a 'child's story'.. It is VERY real.. So all of the CONSTANT worrying to the point of anxiety, stress, fighting and depression that I've come to see SO often in SO many 'religious' jews is VERY disheartening, and I honestly believe it to be one of the MAJOR FACTORS as to why the orthodox community is dealing with the issues it is dealing with today (and obviously by extension, why the rest of the world looks like it does today)..
(Quite honestly however, I'm not sure if it could be any other way anyway. The post war generation had much to be 'concerned' about and the 'switch' from handling kids with force in europe to suddenly 'having to be emotionally available to them' after the war, happened so fast, that most of them did NOT [AND STILL HAVE NOT!!!] make the transition and went on abusing, and slowly distancing, the next generation; thereby passing on the inheritance of nervousness worry and tension)
Any jew (or any person) who is blessed to have moments of 'sound mind' and instead of acknowledging the blessings of life, instead ends up strengthening negative thoughts about him/herself, the family, their life, or any fact of life, is making a GRAVE, GRAVE mistake of lies, right in Hashem's face, and negatively affecting us all.
(Ps I'm grateful for I wife who feels comfortable enough to give me so much time for the longest post I've ever written!)