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. 06 Aug 2009 04:34 #11000
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Re: "my sin is before me always" - ?????? ???? ???? 06 Aug 2009 04:47 #11001
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[b]כי שבע יפול צדיק וקם[/b]
A Tzadik is he who continues to bounce back after he hits bottom, even a hundred times !!!!!Rav Don Segal Shlita |
Re: "my sin is before me always" - וחטאתי נגדי תמיד 06 Aug 2009 16:28 #11074
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Re: "my sin is before me always" - וחטאתי נגדי תמיד 06 Aug 2009 17:33 #11088
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Dear Maalin Bekodesh -
Hi there! What you wrote, I think, is a befeirishe RMB"M. In the beginning of Yesodei HaTorah in sefer Mada of Mishneh Torah, he directly compares the true character of ahavas Hashem to the way a person is obsessed all the time with thoughts of his beloved. In my recovery, the process is looking something like this: - acting out severely, in my own little world, then getting sober; then meetings, steps, meeting, steps, steps... - learning how to focus on being useful to the people around me (just because I am instructed to do so); - discovering that there are actually PEOPLE THERE! (in my house, wow... :o) - watching their lives get happier, somehow; - learning to live intimately with those people, each in the proper way; - discovering what love for my wife really means, and its boundaries; - watching my family's life get even better, somehow... - learning that the dependence I've had on my wife/others for affection has serious limitations and problems for them and for me; - discovering that Hashem really loves me - not because the Torah tells me so, but because I experience it - and that the Borei olam is the real eternal friend I have always needed and will always need; - discovering that I do not ever have to work on getting close to Hashem - for He is and always was closer to me than anything. - learning how to look at my wife - my life partner here - in a more correct and realistic way while we get closer than ever because lust is progressively less of a factor in my life over the past few years. These are some of Hashem's gifts of recovery for me and my family. (Rav Wolbe's sefer Alei Shur has a piece about the wife that is very interesting, along these lines, and was totally impossible for me to understand before some years of sobriety.) The stages may be different for everyone, but the basic requirement for any consistent (though bumpy) progress appears to be simple: staying sober. It is not everything, but - like breathing - there ain't nutin' w/o it...  You are probably developing the RMB"M's concept a bit more into avodah, but it's nice to share w/you, my friend. Stick around! Love, Dov |
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"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."
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Re: "my sin is before me always" - וחטאתי נגדי תמיד 06 Aug 2009 17:37 #11089
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