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Nefesh, Ruach, Neshama, Chaya, Yechidah, yechidah she'biyechidah!! - That's what that letter is!! I must find a place for it on our new site!!

R' Bardechev,
I remember as a kid, standing on 34 and 6 and looking up at the empire state building. It kept going up and up and up, and I could not see the top.
That is how I feel now when you put me with R' Yechida.
It is humbling.
k

Yechida,

Thanks for the letter to my wife.

I can feel the Pain, it is soooooo true.

The Women have a good reason to be hurt, but but but, They can help us more then Anyone can. that said Only when & if we are doing our part in the battle for recovery & Guarding ourselves.

We desperately need their support. Not the opposite!

E.L.

HALEVAU EVERY

RAV REBBE DAYAN MORI ROSHYESHIVAH MASHGIACH RA"M MENAHEL MELAMED

MENAHELES MECHANECHES TEACHER MORAH

PLEASE PLEASE READ THIS LETTER

YOU CAN SAVE LIVES MARRIAGES BROKEN HEARTS
ETC

WITH ALL THE LOVE IN THE WORLD

A JEW YOU NEVER MET

bardichev

Guard,

I think the time has come to start that new thread we discussed for GYE spouses.

Yechida's letter must top the page, and EL's reply can follow.

REMEBER THE SPOUSE USAUALLY DID NOTHING WRONG TO DESERVE THIS
b

7up,

Great Idea!

This  just comes to show what a real Aishes Chail you must be.

Its not easy for woman to be so understanding when it comes to PA or SA as you have said a few weeks ago that you have been discussing OA with a group of woman & it was an excepted problem but when you mentioned SA they looked at you like you fell off the moon.

Thanks for having the guts in opening there minds.

E.L.

EL

Aishes Chayil shmayil!

I didnt feel I had guts in opening their minds. I felt I had a responsibility.

Bardichev;

You are so right. Which is why they deserve a place to unload their pain.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS AN AISHES SHMAIL

THEREIS A AISHES SMILE

b

Wow!

As usual. well said!

bs"d

Yechida,

this comes late, but this is one of the most beautiful posts i have read here.

you guys are playing rollercoster with my feelings: first you have me laughing with 7up and E.L., now i am crying from yechida's post...

THANKN YOU ALL!!!

I second that. (brother, here we go again.. :D)

bs"d

Dear friends,

A few days have passed since I have written this letter.I must tell you,I was not capable of writing such a letter before I wrote it.nor am I capable of it now.You ask me to right now to write such a letter,I couldn't do it.impossible.and after reading what I wrote I had a hard time comprehending that I could have written this.It actually scared me alot.the awesome responsibility for writing this way.

But here is one important correction to the letter.This thing I wrote with 10 different rabonim and ten different directions needs to be corrected because the chazal say"Make yourself a Rav".so every couple must find a qualified mentor to talk to.Davening to Hashem must be coupled the practical effort of finding the right qualified rav or madrich.And when you do find one you must force yourself to open up to him even if you do not want to.Because if you don't tell him what you both are feeling because your embarrassed to say so,he will not be able to help you because he doesn't get the whole picture 

This is an important correction/omission/modification that must be considered with this letter.

This letter can help many many people but it must be used the right way.to heal,to help to promote peace and understanding between husband and wife.You cannot shove this letter down people's throats,nor can you hit someone over the head with it,nor may you manipulate anyone in any way to read this letter.Nor may you use it in anger or with resentment.If you use it in such ways you are taking a knife and stabbing it in my heart,and it would have been better that this letter wasn't written in the first place.


You are all climbing.You are all trying your best,You have every right to expect to lead a healthy and productive life no matter what your past was or what your present is.As long as you are trying your best in climbing up which is what you are doing.

Don't let the Yetzer Harah say that your life is so screwed up that its over and there is no hope.

because that my friends,I swear(and I never swore in my life before.I've always said bli neder),is a bunch of baloney.