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yechida's reflections 29 Jun 2009 19:47 #7665

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(any questions , insights & suggestions about this thread,feel free to email me at taryaga@gmail.com)

There are many reasons we need to be where we are and who we are,most are unknown.Why do we even have to be in a situation or have in our soul so much darkness and a pull toward self-destructing negative behaviors?

I saw once an amazing thought in a sefer.Moshe Rabeinu came from a union that after the Torah was given would have deemed him a mamzer(parents being an aunt & nephew).He could not boast of his lineage.This is one reason that let him be the greatest Anov that ever lived.  

We who have to deal with the stuff that's in us that we would rather not have in the first place-this pain and shame over the course of time -makes us realize that even when we b'ezras Hashem pull out of the addictions-we will never look at another Yid that is struggling with this in a negative way

We catch a Yid looking where he shouldn't be looking and our hearts are full of compassion.We will daven for him,treat him with respect,gently try to get him out of it.We would never disgrace him-not even in our hearts-because we were there.We know what it's like.In our eyes he is a potential tzaddik.

This is surely one reason Hashem gave us this urge towards baseness with all it's shades of ugliness.Yes you are special-like every Yid is-but never ever judge harshly My son or daughter that is struggling-because I love him or her - he or she is part of Klall Yisroel.Just as indispensible as you are.
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yechida's reflections 29 Jun 2009 22:46 #7675

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That was really beutifull! May we only focus on the Yiddishe "Neshoma" or should I say the "Yechida"
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[b]כי שבע יפול צדיק וקם[/b] 
A Tzadik is he who continues to  bounce back after he hits bottom, even a hundred times !!!!!Rav Don Segal Shlita
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yechida's reflections 30 Jun 2009 13:23 #7736

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Thank you Noorah b Amram.I appreciate it
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yechida's reflections 30 Jun 2009 13:27 #7737

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In regarding Trying's posting of June 19-Try Kol Haloshon 1-718-906-6400
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yechida's reflections 01 Jul 2009 20:42 #7938

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It's nice and quiet in this part of the Bais Hamidrash.A great opportunity for reflecting on this week's parsha

Ma Tovu Oholecha Yaakov.Bilaam was forced to recognize the Ohel of Yaakov-the tznius-the kedusha-he couldn't take it.So he gave the advice relating the bnos moav that brought great tragedy to the Jewish People

That Bilaam is dead.But he is still around.Alive & kicking!!-in the form of pornography with all the desire for such matters that are within us.Bilaam has invaded and the loss is great.

But realize that the reason why the struggle is so strong is because he recognizes the true beauty of Ohel Yaakov-and because he hates us he want it destroyed.

Why are the tents of Yaakov beautiful?Because within the walls of the tent there is peace.There is love between husband and wife.The husband happy with his wife.The wife being happy with her husband.The door of the tent is open.Ahavas Yisroel.Hachnosas Orchim.Anyone who needs anything can come in.But the doors are modest.they do not look onto each others tent.

I am happy with my tent.I am happy that you have a beautiful tent too.I'm not jealous of you.I'm happy for you.But your tent is closed.It's for you.Your husband or wife is yours only.And my tent is what I am happy with.If I don't see the beauty of my tent-I ask Hashem to help me see it.see what I already have.reveal to me the beauty of the soul of my wife or husband that you gave to me and give to me every day.

Please don't let the bills,the stress of daily life,the nisyonos distract me from seeing my beautiful tent.The tent that has loving open doors to all but closed to the world when I express my love and hakoras hatov  to greatest gift that is right here within.

This website is also Ohel Yaakov.I see the point of truth in all your diverse positions.Please don't fight.It is clear that even though it seems we are all fighting the same thing -we are not .Every individual needs their own  path to fight their particular battle.

Ahavas Yisroel will help us at least as much as the war we fight head on with our dark side.

If we don't truly love each other-we are lost

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yechida's reflections 01 Jul 2009 20:53 #7940

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Beautiful Yechidah!
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yechida's reflections 01 Jul 2009 21:02 #7942

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I'll tell you why I write.I have a tendency to keep what I have inside-to stay inside.A wise man told me that I have an obligation to let it out.regardless of whether the words will take hold or not.It's very hard for me to do.But try I will.It's very much not my nature
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yechida's reflections 01 Jul 2009 21:23 #7944

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Yechideleh,

Don't be so B'Yechides!

Even when you already so say something that so Gevaldig you still hide it on a Quite thread in a corner.

Don't be afraid! You most shear what you have within with other's.

you never know how many people you can help.

Chazak V'Emutz

E.L.
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yechida's reflections 02 Jul 2009 15:22 #8000

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Thank you for your kind words.

A wise move to move up 7up.The neshama of 7up is like the Havdalah Kos shel Bracha.
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Re: yechida's reflections 06 Jul 2009 14:47 #8239

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My dear brothers & sisters

My heart was with you ,this past Shabbos,when I was thinking about what I heard in the name of the Baal Shem Tov on what Bilaam said "Neum Hagaver Shesum H'ayin"

What is "Shesum H'ayin"?

Onkelos says that it means that the eye saw very well.Rashi says that Bilaam was blind in that one eye.

How could Onkelos and Rashi say the opposite of each other on the same word?

The answer ,says the Baal Shem Tov, is that both are right,both are true and at the same time.

A tzaddik sees things with Ruach Hakodesh,with divine inspiration.In earlier years there was prophecy.How did the eye see this?Because he closed the physical eye from seeing things he shouldn't be seeing.By closing the outer eyes from evil,the inward spiritual eye looks deep in,is wide open,and sees things,beautiful treasures,secrets of the Torah,that no one else can see

So the question arises:How could Bilaam who saw all the filth of the world,how could he see prophecy.How could be perceive the beauty of Ohel Yaakov?The answer is that Hashem blinded one of Biliaam's eyes from birth.That eye never saw the filth,that eye never saw evil,that eye could never be contaminated.It is from that blind eye that he saw the beauty of Ohel Yaakov.So both Onkelos and Rashi are right.Bilaam saw very well spiritually -with the eye that  was blind physically

My beloved brothers and sisters.When we close our eyes from the filth around us,from things we are not allowed to see,our inward eye opens up.We see beautiful secrets from the depths of our neshama.Even if in the past we damaged our eyes,the damage is not irreversable.It doesn't need to go blind chas v'shalom.The Tshuva cleans the eye from the past and closing it in the present will open our spiritual eye to see the wonders of Hashem and the greatness of our neshomoh.

It's a little scary and lonely because in the beginning,as we close our eyes from the bad of the world,our inward eye has not yet opened.It may take some time to see and develop.During that time one may feel alone and in great pain,missing this harmful(but addictive) stimulant from outside ,without yet feeling the light and warmth from within.

Don't despair during this time.

That is when you need to feel all your brothers and sisters here holding your hand-giving you a hug,giving you chizzuk.Hashem is holding your hand.Soon it will become easier,it will become less painful,soon it will be wonderful.But you just need to stick with it.Dont give in to you outer eye.Use it for good things only.Have faith in yourself-You can do it!!!

And then sometimes suddenly - but most of the time gradually -you will feel the light and warmth of your neshomah,the love that will spread outward to your spouse,your neighbor,your friend.Your eyes and heart will be healed and it will heal others as well


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Re: yechida's reflections 06 Jul 2009 15:13 #8240

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BEAUTIFUL!!!
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Re: yechida's reflections 06 Jul 2009 15:21 #8241

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Thank you Battleworn-keep up the good work!!!!
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Re: yechida's reflections 06 Jul 2009 15:52 #8242

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Yechida, I hope you dont mind me popping into your thread.
I just can't help but comment on your dvar torah. It  is truly beautiful. I read it though 3 times, trying to fully internalize it.
What a wonderful yesod.
Thank you so much for sharing
Hashem is addicted to you! Feel His hugs!"Sheva yipol tzaddik VKUM"
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Re: yechida's reflections 06 Jul 2009 16:04 #8244

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Yechida,

Gevaldig! this is what I mean you can help so many people and not even know it. I love this vort! so that Wise man was very wise after all.

Don't keep it in for yourself! keep on shearing these thoughts.

E.L.
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Re: yechida's reflections 06 Jul 2009 18:12 #8261

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Thank you Yechidah, I posted this in our Torah section on our new site: www.guardyoureyes.org/?p=553
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