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Light Notes # 4-“True Inner Worth ”-(Adar 1-5771)-VaYakeil
Dear Friends,
The Aron had a very unusual makeup,
3 separate boxes, three distinct layers
Gold on the outside, Gold on the inside-from there we learn out that the inside of a person should reflect the outside. “Tocho KeBaro” , “Inside like the outside” , consistent, external purity reflecting an inner one. Gold outside, Gold inside,
Yet,
there is wood in the middle.
What is that about?
One profound answer is as follows:
Gold on the outside reflects a great dignity and pride of being a Yid. There true beautiful external manifestation of a Ben and Bas Yisroel.
But one should not because haughty due to this gift
And so, right underneath is wood. Simple. Breakable. Humble. That is a place of growth that comes from true humility. Don’t be arrogant. Don’t talk down to anyone. Don’t let the Gold poison your thinking. The wood right underneath the gold surface is telling us not to lose our heads in our golden state. So remember the simple wood. Treat every human being as if they are better and more noble than you….
And yet, right underneath the wood, there is another inner layer of gold.
It is dangerous to feel too low, too “humble”
For that type of humbleness will hold back a person from striving to become the special person he can be.
So the deepest and most inner part of him is precious gold
That no matter what, the purity of his neshamah shines
You are intrinsically good. Undamaged. That is the deepest level.
Pure Gold
This lesson is very important when someone tries to bash you. Or when you are a victim of Onoas Devorim. Or when you do not see what is good in yourself.It is then when it is very difficult to find the pure Gold within yourself.
And what can help is to keep this Hassidic story in mind. I saw this in a book called “Sacred Therapy” and the next two paragraphs are a direct quote from the book
Once , while on the road, Rabbi Isaac of Vorki and his teacher Rabbi david of Lelov stopped in an unfamiliar town. Suddenly a woman approached Reb David and began to beat him, having mistaken him for her estranged husband, who had abandoned her and her children several years earlier. While screaming and hitting Reb David, the woman suddenly realized that the man she was beating was not her husband but a famous Hasidic rebbe who happened to look a bit like her husband. Completely mortified, she immediately began to beg the rebbe’s forgiveness, apologizing profusely for her terrible mistake. Instead of getting angry, Rabbi David responded with words of comfort, saying: ”It’s Ok, don’t worry; it wasn’t me you were hitting.” The woman was completely baffled, but she went away feeling as though a heavy burden was lifted from her soul.
When Rabbi David said “it wasn’t me you were hitting”, he was, in fact, teaching the woman a very deep lesson. When we are hurt by another person’s actions, our pain is often amplified by the fact that we tend to take personally what was done to us. We experience the pain as though it were intentionally directed at us and as though we must have deserved it. ”It wasn’t me you were hitting”, was the wise rabbi’s way of saying he was not identified with the “me” that had been the target of the woman’s outrageous, insulting behavior. As an evolved spiritual being, Rabbi David was not primarily identified with his ego, so he felt no need to defend his honor and his pride. When he said “it wasn’t Me you were hitting”, perhaps he was also teaching the woman that she need not take her husband’s abandonment of her so personally (It was his action ,not hers),If she would realize this, perhaps she would be released from her rage and be able to heal the damage that her husband’s actions had inflicted on her self-esteem.
What her husband did to her was cruel. We can’t blame her anger, Who can blame her for being hurt deeply. We cannot be judgemental of her bitterness.
But she can learn can learn that her inner core can never be broken. Even if she was not blameless , and there were reasons why her husband deserted her, some serious character flaws, she must still know that she has pure gold within her, independent of her own mistakes, no matter what life has brought to her.
The wood undercurrent can break, and that can hurt terribly. but the pure gold within,the deep essence of what is you cannot be hurt. That stays intact, that is pure, that inner gold, that will never be lost no matter what.