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Re: struggle continues 21 Feb 2011 17:52 #97876

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Now that was gold!
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."
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Re: struggle continues 22 Feb 2011 03:53 #97957

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I'll tell you what is even more precious than gold - someone who works on his recovery in advance of his marriage.  There can be no greater gift to your future wife.
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!
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Re: struggle continues 22 Feb 2011 20:40 #98065

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amen. HKBH should help us all in the recovery process.
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Re: struggle continues 24 Feb 2011 14:18 #98381

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went on YU computers yesterday and viewed innocent aol.com pics of celebreties with maldrobe malfunctions- my YH probab told me- "Dont worry, its not p***!". but its an issue.
the truth is my computer (with k9) was with me but wasnt getting internet, which I thought I needed (altgho I needed to prinnt my paper out sdo eventually i needed the lib computers) so I just went staright for the YU comps
this is part of my addiction
ill keep posting
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Re: struggle continues 24 Feb 2011 18:24 #98431

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Warning: Another annoying pitch for 12-steps recovery:

If you are just fighting to not act out, and not doing anything to think and live differently, then that is not recovery, it's just 'staying clean'. And it's doomed.

When they say 'one day at a time' they do not mean that we 'hang on for just one more 24 hrs w/o acting out'. They mean that we get used to living in reality, which is one day at a time. And that we work one day at a time on living more sanely this day.

Hatzlocha.
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."
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Re: struggle continues 24 Feb 2011 18:27 #98432

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But I gotta really hand it to you, sir. Your regular posts that are straight and honest about what you did and didn't do are refreshing! We all need more of that from all of us.
Kein yirbu.
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."
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Re: struggle continues 28 Feb 2011 03:25 #98772

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sir? lol

what du u mean living differently? can u define that?
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Re: struggle continues 28 Feb 2011 05:18 #98788

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I already posted the answer. Read the member stories about the drunks in the back of AA. Start at the beginning and read straight through. These are real people who were all well known in AA circles. Not pretty sights, but amazing and beautiful stories that will clarify exactly what I mean.

You don't need more dogma and hashkofah - it hasn't helped that much for the past 10+ years of your life. It's time to meet some real recovering people who will share with you what it was like, how they got here, and what it is like now.

Hatzlocha, chaver.
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."
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Re: struggle continues 04 Mar 2011 17:51 #99607

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when i'm in a position to view p, i think for a second- Hashem help me
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Re: struggle continues 04 Mar 2011 20:14 #99644

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How does that feel - and what happens?
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Re: struggle continues 06 Mar 2011 19:02 #99786

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BH and BAH it has helped

makes me feel  like - "ok, i wanna view and i am able to view, so Hashem you have to stop me". then miraculously, i dont have the urge anymore...
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Re: struggle continues 06 Mar 2011 20:44 #99810

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That's beautiful - it's like letting ratzon hashem fill you up!
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Re: struggle continues 06 Mar 2011 23:13 #99827

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BH
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Re: struggle continues 08 Mar 2011 21:03 #100204

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mstrbtd this morning first time in a week i think

then i had a decent learning seder, wasnt  so great in shiur, then learned with another guy. said tehillim also.

i think i had a good week. my friend mac said to move on today so i have
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Re: struggle continues 09 Mar 2011 17:49 #100360

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a lot going on right now for me. im sure some people are under a lot more pressure and stress than I am as a college student, yet i still find myself under a little pressure nowadays for diff things
easy time for YH to step in.
need Hashem more than ever...
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