fell on shabbos- please encourage me to nap in my shabbos clothes only. thank you.

We know the feeling.  :'(

For a few years I couldn't 'afford' to nap in bed on Shabbos afternoon!

Even napping at a table with my forehead on my hands wasn't always OK!

I like the fact that you learned something from your fall. If you use it as a way to grow, that's the best way forward!

Yosef Hatzadik wrote on 30 Jan 2011 22:36:


Umm...isn't your forehand usually with your hand?

jk

KOT SG!!!

when i have clean nights i feel great. BH!
When I fall tho, I say- well all guys struggle with it. additionally, I am not married yet so what can I do?
thats where i am at

Admit that you are powerless over your addiction,  but Hashem is stronger than the addiction.

That Hashem is stronger than lust is a belief, not recovery.

There is still recovery that is waiting in some shape, form, and derech, for everyone who needs it.

Even if you're not married - especially if you 're not married - what you can do is to realize that you can survive, and even be happy, without acting out.

StrugglingGuy wrote on 10 Feb 2011 21:29:


This struggle is actually easier to figure out when you're not married.  You're in a great place to get the right attitude.

Afterwards, it's really easy to confuse love with lust.  Can get messy.

--Eye.

I cant stop m'ing every couple days.
I give up.
Hashem- I surrender to you the power of my lust.

How about skipping the entire text of AA and just reading member stories written by drunks just to see if you see yourself as they are - but with your lust.

If you do not, that's great, get help with where you are.

If you do, that's great, get help with where you are.

Ok everyone--to put everything on table:  engagement will be soon next couple of months i think.
i now we talk about working on oursleves befopre we marry and i want to commit to that, so i would appreciate if everyone could just give some chizik.
my good friend macabee and I have been speaking regularly about these issues and will continue to.
I am almost sure i am an addict- i look around for romance books even when i dont really want to- and so i am gonna continue my treatment to get well. i know that without Hashem i am done.

Mazel Tov!!

Things can be OK, as long as you really don't believe that your wife will save you from machshovos ra'os and from tayvah. In other words, we can't expect a healthy marriage if we will use our wives to save us from ourselves. But as long as you keep doing what you say and maintain responsibility for your own "treatment to get well", all will be OK be"H.

thx dov

All I can say is that after you're married, you'll be very, very glad of any effort you put in beforehand towards your recovery. As worthwhile as recovery is, once you're married, you'll be even happier that you got sober first.