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Re: New Start 27 Oct 2008 18:12 #592

  • crakerjak
OK, ok.....phew.

I downloaded K9 Web Protection.....

I still can't believe I just did that.

Problem is, who do i give the password to? Before you suggest my wife, there is no way I could do that. She has no inkling about this matter.

I still cant believe I downloaded the programme.

Would never have been able to do it without you guys.....

I'm sweating!

Good night, talk tomorrow,

Menachem
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Re: New Start 27 Oct 2008 19:04 #593

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Make a random password and put in my e-mail address for the password: eyes.guard@gmail.com
You're doing a vital step. You will feel so much freer soon.
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Re: New Start 27 Oct 2008 20:17 #597

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want to say that today has been extremely difficult as predicted b



Menachem, maybe if you predict success you'll get success.  If you predict failure you'll get failure.

What do you think?

Did you ever tell your kid, "Don't spill the milk."  What happens?  He spills the milk.

Instead, be careful.

You will feel so much better once you know you've put that block on. If you need someone to
hold your pw, let me know.
Elya K was the first  GYE hotline moderator for couples struggling with Shmiras Eiynaim issues in their marriage.  Elya is the author of 6 books, among them Navigating the Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery, Help Her Heal with Carol Sheets,  Ambushed by Betrayal: The Survival Guide for Betrayed Partners on their Heroes’ Journey to Healthy Intimacy with Michele Saffier. 


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Re: New Start 27 Oct 2008 22:57 #600

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Menachem,

I'm so glad that you have a filter now! Its going to make such a difference, i know it!  Make sure to email a random password to Guardureyes!

Also make sure to delete any trace of the password from your computer and email account.
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Re: New Start 28 Oct 2008 05:42 #604

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Problem with k9 password is that it requires you to enter it in 2 times for validation. So you cant enter something without knowing what you entered the first time. Solution is to let someone else have control over your account. Someone from this site.

Im a big talker - I still havent done that. But I will.
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Re: New Start 28 Oct 2008 07:27 #605

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Just one last bit of advice:

When you set the filter for it's level of security, make sure while you are now presently beating the menuval, make certain to take advantage of this opportunity, and set it for the high level of security. Unfortunately the lower levels are just not enough.
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Re: New Start 28 Oct 2008 10:12 #608

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eme, you don't have to know what it is to put it in again. Make a random password, copy it, and paste it in again the second time.
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Re: New Start 28 Oct 2008 17:16 #611

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Hi Guys,

I am going to talk to my wife today about the issue in general terms. Hopefully she will do the password for me. She's not very computer savvy or technical so I hope I can convince her that it's just something that she has to do.......

Hope it works,

Menachem
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Re: New Start 28 Oct 2008 17:26 #612

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Menachem, you're taking a big and bold step and I congratulate you on your courage. Be honest.  Tell your wife you've accidentally fallen upon some bad sites and you want to prevent this from happening in the future.
Elya K was the first  GYE hotline moderator for couples struggling with Shmiras Eiynaim issues in their marriage.  Elya is the author of 6 books, among them Navigating the Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery, Help Her Heal with Carol Sheets,  Ambushed by Betrayal: The Survival Guide for Betrayed Partners on their Heroes’ Journey to Healthy Intimacy with Michele Saffier. 


FREE EBOOK ON THE GYE SITE AT: Mask In the Mirror (guardyoureyes.com)

Elya K. has been coaching people worldwide for over 10 years for Shmiras Eiyanim issues. 
For a free 15 minute consultation call 901-248-6001.
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Guys, please read this! 28 Oct 2008 20:51 #619

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Menachem - and everyone. I want you all to read the beautiful update to this story that I just got in today! (It has to do with the wife too Menachem, but it may not apply to your situation).

Go to this page and read the story - especially the part called "Update 1" - just in today and very inspiring!
Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest.
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Re: New Start 28 Oct 2008 22:52 #622

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This is a beautiful story and makes our work worth every second. 

Guys, before you just blurt out anything to your wife, PLEASE speak to a professional
beforehand to help guide you through it.  It can be very traumatic for your wife and
damage your relationship.  Some people do it with a counselor in the room.

I will say, if you have a good relationship now, I concur that getting it over with, eliminates
the secrets and lets you live a life of freedom. Marriage is a true partnership, with ups and downs.
No one expects perfection.
Elya K was the first  GYE hotline moderator for couples struggling with Shmiras Eiynaim issues in their marriage.  Elya is the author of 6 books, among them Navigating the Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery, Help Her Heal with Carol Sheets,  Ambushed by Betrayal: The Survival Guide for Betrayed Partners on their Heroes’ Journey to Healthy Intimacy with Michele Saffier. 


FREE EBOOK ON THE GYE SITE AT: Mask In the Mirror (guardyoureyes.com)

Elya K. has been coaching people worldwide for over 10 years for Shmiras Eiyanim issues. 
For a free 15 minute consultation call 901-248-6001.
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Re: New Start 29 Oct 2008 08:26 #626

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Menchem,

  While you are presently holding the steering wheel in your hands, you may wish to consider the words of Chaz'l concerning:
    "Aizehu Chachem....mi sheh roeh es a nolad,"

  You mentioned concerning your wife that: "I am going to talk to my wife today about the issue in general terms. Hopefully she will do the password for me. She's not very computer savvy or technical so I hope I can convince her that it's just something that she has to do......."

  If she is not computer savy or technical,and she also doesn not fully understand the extent of what we are dealing with, then in a moment of weakness, menuval may tell you to have your wife enter the code because "I have to change or update something etc", and she being not so technical oriented, and computer savy will just do as she is told. Therefore, while you are still strong and bashing the Y"H, you may in fact wish to send the code to "eyes@....."
    Just as Aitzah....  Hatztlachah Rabah


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Re: New Start 11 Nov 2008 13:08 #788

  • crakerjak
Hi all,

I've been away in the far east on business for a few days so I haven't been able to post.

B'H its all good news and reading the various replies have given me much strength to go on.

Yes, times have been testing and hard but with the continued help of Hashem and you guys I will prevail!

thanks again so much

Menachem
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Re: New Start 11 Nov 2008 16:43 #798

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Crakerjack, great to hear from you. Keep us informed. We are all in this together.
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