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TOPIC: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 12236 Views

Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 04 Nov 2009 18:11 #26888

Ineedhelp!! OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1058 Karma: 2	Hey just saw on the website that there's a chatroom.... whats the deal with that? does it work? That is a great idea! -INH
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 04 Nov 2009 21:29 #26937

the.guard Current streak: 697 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6436 Karma: 137	If you're on the 90-Day chart, you can sign in to the chatroom using your username and password here: www.guardyoureyes.org/?page_id=1416 Make up to meet someone on this forum there, and he should log in too, and then you can chat! It's still being tested, but it should work. Let me know how it goes...
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 04 Nov 2009 22:37 #26947

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I was thinking this Mashul in terms of this idea of surrendering and someone tell me if this is what it is because I think its an extremely focal point of the recovery process: So youre in 8th grade and this bully starts picking on you and your whole life he picks on you and you try to fight back but nothing works. Afterwards you just end up on the floor with a bloody nose, scratches and broken bones. After a while you realize he gets his pleasure when you fight back. SO the next time you say you arent going to fight back you'll just surrender. And the next day the bully comes into the playground and here's how it goes down:

Bully: "Hey INH, you ready to do this?"

INH: "Na not feeling it today"

Bully: "What do you mean lets fight. What are you a wuss?"

INH: "I guess so. Ya Im a wuss. You win again!"

Bully: "Well I wanna fight so we're going to fight"

INH: "Sorry not gonna happen I give up you already won the fight"

And as INH walks away he turns around and sees the bully with an empty and sad look on his face. He realizes he just won. This is our battle with the Yetzer Hara. He wants us to put up somewhat of a fight so he can fight back with all his strength. Once we partake in the battle he uses all his power and might to defeat us. And he doesnt just want to defeat us, he wants to pulverize to the ground so we wont get up. But, if just give in before the fight even starts, the Yetzer Hara has nothing to get us on. He cant use all of his powers to get us down and keep us down.

Does this make any sense???

-INH

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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 05 Nov 2009 12:28 #26983

G38 OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 233 Karma: 1	Spot on man! Very well said.
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 05 Nov 2009 12:56 #26986

7yipol Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder YES HE CAN! Posts: 4686 Karma: 12	G38 wrote on 05 Nov 2009 12:28: Spot on man! Very well said. ditto!
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 05 Nov 2009 17:48 #27042

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	Hey there, mom...that word is taken.....oh, never mind.
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 06 Nov 2009 10:38 #27139

7yipol Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder YES HE CAN! Posts: 4686 Karma: 12	dov wrote on 05 Nov 2009 17:48: Hey there, mom...that word is taken.....oh, never mind. :-[ :-[ :-[ ottid
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 06 Nov 2009 15:21 #27164

Ineedhelp!! OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1058 Karma: 2	Hey everyone have a great Shabbos. Make it meaningfull. Do something special this week that you dont normally do. Set the table, but flowers, cook/bake something. -INH
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 08 Nov 2009 02:34 #27244

Ineedhelp!! OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1058 Karma: 2	Hey everyone I hope you all had amazing Shabbossim wherever u spent it. Ive had a rough night fending off the yetzer hara, but B'H still clean. Hope youre all doing well and have aGut Voch! -INH
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 08 Nov 2009 11:07 #27260

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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 08 Nov 2009 21:08 #27321

Ineedhelp!! OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1058 Karma: 2	Wow I fell today. Cant believ it. Hit me like a ton of bricks. I fell and it hurts. I fell and it left a permanent scar. I will get back to explaining my reaction later. You may be surprised to hear what it is. Have to go daven Mincha now. -INH
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 08 Nov 2009 21:22 #27323

the.guard Current streak: 697 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6436 Karma: 137	"Reaction" to the fall, or reaction that LED to the fall?
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 08 Nov 2009 21:34 #27326

Ineedhelp!! OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1058 Karma: 2	No i meant reaction to the fall thats why I said youll be surprised
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 08 Nov 2009 21:45 #27328

the.guard Current streak: 697 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6436 Karma: 137	The suspense is killing me
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Re: Please gimme some Chizuk and or Mussar. 09 Nov 2009 02:44 #27335

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First of all I'd like to explain why I probably fell. I am pretty it is stress related and I was trying to escapoe the pressures of the stress. I have alot of work coming up this week and theres alot of pressure involved in the work. Second order of business is to explain the two reasons why it was necessary for me to fall:

1) I needed a reality check. A smack in the face. This has been my longest streak in a while and its no secret that itrs because of the 12 step program that I am attending (over the phone). I thought I was doing so well that I was in control of it. I would never fall again. This could not be further from the truth. Hashem wanted me to fall in order to realize that I REALLY AM NOT IN CONTROL. And every time we think we can control this, He is going to give us a nice fat reality check in the form of lust.

2) I needed to really understand what it meant that our lives are "unmanageable". When I went through this step, I didnt hesitate to answer yes, I fully believed it, and I even preached it. But I didnt really understand what that meant. For the first time in my life I teared because I fell. Right afterwards. I am not a very emotional person so when I tear somethings gotta give. My life is completely unmanageable like this. I need Hashem to control me, I cant control me.

Everyone should have a great week of spiritual growth.

-INH

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