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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 30 Jul 2025 21:16 #439687

hollyari Current streak: 9 days OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 21 Karma: 1	Davidt, Whoa… you’ve got an Eisik.. You really get it — that voice, the patterns, the twisted logic. You described it like you’ve lived it. But maybe that’s exactly why your words hit so hard. Because yeah — you’re right about a lot of things. But this time, I’m not trying to prove you wrong. I’m trying to prove me right. Thanks for the push. I needed that.

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 31 Jul 2025 01:24 #439703

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hollyari wrote on 30 Jul 2025 21:16:

Davidt,

Whoa… you’ve got an Eisik..

You really get it — that voice, the patterns, the twisted logic. You described it like you’ve lived it.

But maybe that’s exactly why your words hit so hard.

Because yeah — you’re right about a lot of things.

But this time, I’m not trying to prove you wrong. I’m trying to prove me right.

Thanks for the push. I needed that.

You know what? That shift you just made - from "proving them wrong" to "proving me right" - that's everything.
You heard the voice, didn't get defensive, and chose a different story anyway. Not out of spite, but because you decided you're worth it.
That's not the same person who usually makes these bets. August 18th just got a whole lot more interesting.

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @ ahavayirah@gmail.com

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 31 Jul 2025 15:01 #439727

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Hey Ari,

Welcome! It warms the heart to hear someone say those words that resonate so deeply with me: GYE meanshope.

So many of us struggled alone in the shadows for too long, fighting shame and self-loathing, until we even came to believe that there was no path left to freedom.
GYE shows us- you CAN break free. So many others who thought the same have done so. Behind each thread of a a man with a long streak stands someone who thought it could not be done.
There is hope. And that’s precious.
There are doorways opening up where you thought was only a brick wall. It’s going to take work, not just determination. But with friends , it’s a completely different universe. Around here, we like to say “the opposite of addiction is connection”; though we all must walk our own, sometimes lonely, road in life, it’s far, far easier to make the climb together with friends who understand.

Read some threads, there’s a lot to learn here. When you’re ready make some connections. We’re looking forward to getting to know you better!

Here’s a warm hand,
chaimoigen

Please feel free to reach out anytime at chaim.oigen@gmail.com

Perhaps you'd enjoy seeing Chaim's Oigen

Last Edit: 31 Jul 2025 15:04 by chaimoigen.

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 31 Jul 2025 15:13 #439729

hollyari
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Thanks for the warm welcome, Chaimoigen.

Your message — and every message here — really means a lot.

I appreciate you sharing your thread, it’s full of solid chizuk and practical ideas.

With good friends around, this nisayon is starting to feel like a game — like playing Mario on GameBoy: I see a rock, I jump right over it.

Baruch Hashem, I’m at 8 now, aiming to win this battle on the first try… let’s keep climbing!

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 31 Jul 2025 16:31 #439739

balancedfox70
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hollyari wrote on 28 Jul 2025 20:35:

It’s incredible to finally have a platform where I can speak straight from the heart — no judgment, no pointing fingers, just support and realness. That alone is a massive help.

So here’s me, raw and real: I’m a huge attention seeker and an even bigger big shot. In this life I’ve done some wild — trust me, crazy wild — things just to prove I’m stronger, smarter, better, more successful than the average guy.

But now I’m taking that same energy… and turning it into gold.

I’m going to brag right here — not to make others small, but to lift myself up. I want all of you, my new best friends, to see me shine. Because I will make it through. And not just “make it through” — I’m going to win on my very first attempt.

Why? Because that’s who I am.

My drive to win is stronger than any other need. That same ego that once brought me down… will now be the key to my endless light. I’m breaking free — with gavah shel kedusha. I’m not ashamed of who I am — I’m using every part of me to build a new future.

I’m a winner.

And I’m asking you — the kedoshim of this place — challenge me. Hold me accountable. Let your posts stay in front of my eyes when a nisayon crosses my path. Let your strength become my shield.

Because together… we’ve got this.

I think we ought to change your name to "Arrogant Ari"!

"Yesterday is history,
Tomorrow is a mystery,
Today is a gift,
That's why they call it the present"
#ODAAT!

Here are my threads:
guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/433015-Just-starting-out

guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/433933-Tired-Wife

Feel free to reach out.
My email address is: balancedfox70@gmail.com

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 31 Jul 2025 18:23 #439753

hollyari Current streak: 9 days OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 21 Karma: 1	Hey Stumblers, You’ve got an insider— The Yetzer Hara teamed up against me, and I gotta admit, he’s tricky and does his job well. But guess what? I’m better. No contest! I made it, I’m making it, and I will keep making it through! See you all at the winning finish line!

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 31 Jul 2025 18:54 #439754

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You may have to do hataras nedarim on your first vow that if you are clean for 26 days you are donating money to GYE. Please do so because without that your second vow has no significance. Another option is that if you have a setback you are going to give more than $26 to GYE. You are much better off with doing hataras nedarim unless you easily have the money for the second option and you want to spend it on this. I tried sending you this in a private message but private messages weren't working.

https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/399000-My-long-journey
https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 31 Jul 2025 19:18 #439756

hollyari Current streak: 9 days OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 21 Karma: 1	Good point Yitzchokm..

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 31 Jul 2025 23:45 #439762

frank.lee Current streak: 621 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 724 Karma: 23	Are private messages not working for the past few days?

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 01 Aug 2025 01:03 #439768

hollyari Current streak: 9 days OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 21 Karma: 1	Feel free dropping your comments here, Frank.lee. no judgments.. Or you can email me at Arihakadosh24@gmail.com
	Last Edit: 01 Aug 2025 01:03 by hollyari.