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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 15:20 #440896

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We tell a Nazir to go away from vineyards...how far? Far enough so it's not a michshol. But if the Nazir is up all night dreaming about wine and hanging out with wine drinkers it's going to be hard. If the Nazir fills their time up with good friendships and enriching activities the occassional desire for that red Cab will flare up and then go away...now is the time to try to understand yourself and what makes you fall. The feeling of gravity doesn't come from nowhere. If you were stuck in Amish country it would go away very quickly. Food for thought.

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 15:40 #440898

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I'll tell you what I told myself yesterday after a particularly hard day, and some slip ups, the energy and the motivation will likely falter given our history, what we can do different is widen the radius, so when we falter and slip, its only a slip, not a fall, until sanity kicks in. Another point, we have to learn how to dust off from smaller slip ups, and not get pulled in to the all or nothing mindset, which is self destructive, success doesn't have to be linear, it can have bumps, the pitfall is when we don't know how to travel thru bumps.



All of the above is for the scenario where the motivation starts waning, however as long as your riding strong - and you are - just KOT.
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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 16:02 #440900

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If i would be you, i wouldn't put much focus on 5 10 days ahead, just focus on that day and then of course look back. like R' Usher Reich said in 1 of the V'yimoyin video's from the Tiferes Shlomo about R' Tzudek that when he fasted daily that the Beis Hamikdush should't get destroyed he didn't fast the 40 yrs only fasted every day for that day which is a very strong tip for us when counting, count every day for that day not looking forward that you're pushing for another 30 or 90 days because it like look so far fetch, just a thought  
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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 17:53 #440907

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If you dont reach 40 that I won't be messaging you!
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Re: You’re About to Save My Life 27 Aug 2025 19:12 #440911

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One of the main things in not to become complacent. Remember that the Yetzer Hora doesn't sleep so keep on doing whatever is working for you. Als, once you are clean for a while you should be able to pick up when something goes wrong earlier on. If you feel a slightly greater sexual pull than usual it might mean that you have to put something in place so you don't slip like doing an exercise in the toolbox. If you have been using the mindfulness exercises, they can be done way before there is a full-fledged urge. Other than that just KOMT.

Re: You’re About to Save My Life 28 Aug 2025 12:51 #440925

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hollyari wrote on 27 Aug 2025 14:51:

Can anyone share what usually comes next?


Thought you might appreciate this post from Reb CO. Adding a link because his thread is saturated with gems of truth - very worthwhile to spend some time with.

https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/395737-Thought-I-wouldnt-need-to-ask-for-help?limit=15&start=330#435913
chaimoigen wrote on 15 May 2025 03:08:
I just realized that 730 days is 365x2. That’s two years clean, a very big milestone, BH. 
BH. 

Life isn’t a bed of roses. In fact I have been dealing with a number of major Nisyonos that have taken place and continue to take place, and I struggle with them internally as well as outwardly. 

However, the internal joy that I have inside from the sense of Tahara that I’ve developed from being clean has changed my life, and given me strength and clarity and a wellspring of Koach that I would not otherwise have.

Because being clean is not just about stopping to feel sick about what was wrong. It’s about how so, so, much in my internal spiritual and emotional life is better from this place that I’m now in, BH. Everything looks different from here.
I’ve written about it in a lot of different ways in this thread and others. 

I don’t think life ever stops being filled with challenges. That’s why we are here. But the rewards of being clean - long term - are abundant. 

Im thankful to be here, thankful for this special gift, and thankful to all of you.

If you’re hanging on at the beginning of your journey and wondering if the long-term gain is worth it. If you’re not feeling how 30,40, or even 90 days makes a difference in the ongoing battlefield of life, I take this moment to tell you, friend, that from this man’s perspective it’s worth hanging on. You owe it to yourself to see what you can be. The difference comes with time, and it’s worth it. 

ברגשי הודאה על העבר ובקשה על העתיד 

מאן דבעי חיים 
Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.
There is no "just" when it comes to lust.

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