connected wrote on 29 Aug 2023 19:08:
This might sound like a radical idea:
Learn to be comfortable with boredom.
There's nothing wrong with being bored, and if you start feeling uneasy, you can explore that, "Why am I feeling this way?"
Boredom usually leaves us alone with someone we don't know too well and don't like that much. (See Rabbi Twerski Z"L:
My Own Struggle with Low Self-Esteem (2008))
I'm learning that by sticking to it, I'm actually getting to know myself. I'm a pretty fascinating guy.
Of course, when the serious, foul-smelling stuff starts coming up (y'know, the stuff I don't like to admit), I'm tempted to flee the scene and act out. (Which is why boredom is so uncomfortable in the first place.)
But escaping boredom at every opportunity isn't exactly the solution.
I appreciate this point tremendously.
Also, when feeling bored and being uncomfortable with it, you are uncomfortable with "being", and looking for stimulation and excitement.
This, by definition, puts you in a posture that's dangerous.
"Stimulate and distract me" is an beckoning invitation to a certain demon whom I have known all too well. She usually doesn't need to be asked twice....