The Four Primary Laws of Looking at and Thinking about Women
Below is a summary of relevant rulings. Familiarize yourself with these laws, and you will have a ready and practical guide to live by: (Shulchan Aruch Even HaEzer, Chapter 21, Law 1)

(1) It is forbidden to look at a woman if she is dressed immodestly. (There are different laws regarding one's wife.)
(2) a. If you know of an area where immodestly dressed women are present, it is forbidden to enter this area. An alternative route must be taken.
b. If there is no alternative route, or the alternative route is impractical or costly, you are permitted to pass through the area providing you make every reasonable effort to avoid seeing the immodest sights.
(3) It is forbidden to have thoughts of desire for any woman. (There are different laws regarding one's wife.)
(4) It is forbidden to derive pleasure from looking at the beauty of a woman, even if she is modestly dressed. (There are different laws regarding one's wife.)

joetyh wrote on 27 Jan 2022 22:14:

you have been warping something, but good for you for going to such a shiur and for asking here. gye does not change, modify, add to or subtract from halachah. gye (i think) speaks to the mindset of people, and what would be beneficial to do or not to do in certain situations. gye cannot say that it is permitted to go on the other side of the mechitzah to get that piece of strawberry short cake (which, by the way, similar to that good looking woman you dream about, will not be as tasty as you initially thought); what they could say is that seeing women dressed up (or down) should not affect you if you are working a productive program.

on the downside, there are no fresh strawberries here in nauru; as a matter of fact, no fruits or vegetables grow here on account of the poor soil; everything needs to be canned, refined or imported.

DAY 12!!!!! 

Hayom Yom 13!!!! tomorrow will be the 2 week mark that i have only hit once or twice like 2 years ago.... but we aint stoppin there!!!!! next goal is 18 which is chai!!!

Keep it up brother.

Whats your 2 week prize ganna be?

i would love to go out for some good lunch but as of now that time is anyways being decided between my friends hakamas matzeiva and my coousins pidyon haben...

So go out the next day :-)

2 Weeks!!!! 2 Weeks!!!! 2 Weeks!!!! That's 14 days!!!! Thanks You Hashem!!!! 
GYE Chevra THANKS!!!!! 
Next small goal is chai/18!!!
I have never done more than 14 days since i started struggling....
This is where it gets crazy

UNbelievable!

Craaaaasy!!

we should have a sushi party, I'm about to get to day 30 (level 4) tomorrow. Lechaim

thanks!!!!!!!! i will definitely have you in mind by my celebration!!!!

I am heading home in like 2 months and although I've never had an issue with this I am worried that my sister has an unfiltered laptop sitting around at home. I don't know if I know the password but that should be easy to get from her. My parents have asked her to filter it (not knowing about my struggles...) but she doesn't want to.... can I ask her upfront and tell her on a basic level that I struggle?
any other tips?
I do plan on not touching non filtered devices but still nervous...

joetyh wrote on 31 Jan 2022 20:30:

You can try to ask her in a way that you don't need to tell her about your struggle. For example, you might want to tell her that you've heard from Rabonim having a filter is required in halacha (to avoid accidental bad clicks or pop-ups etc)  torah.org/torah-portion/weekly-halacha-5770-emor/

Sounds like a partner could be very helpful as part of your plan.

From what i understand, woman who don't struggle with lust issues have a hard time understanding a mans lust issue. So she may not install a filter even if you do tell her.

BUT that definitely increases accountability, because even if she doesn't understand, it will be a lot more awkward to ask her to use it if she knows what you are using it for.

17 Days!!!!
My parents have asked her but she doesnt want to....
i dont know what im going to do