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Re: This time will be better 18 Jan 2022 21:47 #376131

joetyh Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 182 Karma: 20	wow that is well put
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Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 07:36 #376151

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You can cry. Its ok to cry.

I'm sick of the Un-scientific approach of today's medical and social environment.
we will never heal and become a better society unless we realize that all people are addicts. Any thing we do that we aren't interested in is "addiction" and medicine doesn't fix addictions.

Pain causes addiction and medicine cant fix pain.

Unless we heal our pain, and become truama conscious so as not to cause others pain, we will never be living in a functioning human society.

Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 08:44 #376153

joetyh Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 182 Karma: 20	Thanks!! but the tears dont wanna come out......
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Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 10:46 #376157

joetyh Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 182 Karma: 20	ok we here on day 2!!! Thanks to one of the guys I've been shmoozing with I'm writing a contract today BezH. listen here mr. Yetzer Hara go find some non jew to mess with I am going to put up a fight... they wont
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Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 11:20 #376158

shmuel Current streak: 578 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 340 Karma: 14	joetyh wrote on 19 Jan 2022 10:46: ok we here on day 2!!! Thanks to one of the guys I've been shmoozing with I'm writing a contract today BezH. listen here mr. Yetzer Hara go find some non jew to mess with I am going to put up a fight... they wont Not that it actually matters but what makes you think this is exclusively a Jewish issue?

Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 12:04 #376159

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well it isnt only a jewish issue because I have warped my system that Hashem gave me but most hardships in the battle do come from a yetzer Hara.
Now there are 2 yetzer Hara
1) The Satan, he was given a shlichus from Hashem to test our abilities

2) is the inner Yetzer Hara which is also known as the Nefesh Bahami (the animalistic part of our being)

so yes it is a jewish issue because I am a Jew and I have gone against Hashem and went from following my Nefesh Sichli (my neshama the clear thinking ruchnius part of our being) to my nefesh bahami and now when I get an urge I am following my inner yetzer hara that has control on me now....

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Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 13:52 #376166

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joetyh wrote on 18 Jan 2022 20:18:

I was just thinking what could I have done differently when I was younger not to have gotten into this. I can't point to a stupid decision I made that got me here. Why did I get into this? I was just a dumb stupid kid who was curious and now I'm here. Why?!?!?!?! If only I would have known that the little peak in the magazine to see some cute girls would send me here.... I would burnt those stupid magazines!!!!!! I never would've taken them to the bathroom so no-one should know... I never would've gone thru the trash cuz someone threw them out before I got to see....

Gosh, why did I do this to myself....

Why did my future wife (whenever Hashem decides is the right time) deserve this?

Why did I deserve this?

But now I'm here and it's so so hard to get out (and stupid summer magazines aint the problem....)

I am going to get thru this

I wish I can cry a little...

From yesterday’s boost- excerpt from The Battle Of The Generation

Quick Recap:

The further we have fallen, the greater we can become, even if the difficulty came about from our own actions.
Not only can we accomplish greater achievements due to the challenge, we can even reach incredible heights in this world by using our failures to spur us on to reach for the stars.

that said, I find the need to cry at times too.

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The Battle of the Generation by Hillel S. has been a huge help for me. Message me to find out how you can receive a free copy.

some of the experiences I write about may make it easier to identify me. This is ok. I trust that if anyone discovers my identity they will keep it to themselves. If you do realize that you know me, I am completely comfortable and welcome you acknowledging me and my struggle in person.

Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 14:52 #376174

joetyh Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 182 Karma: 20	i need to learn how to let myself let go so I can cry
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Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 14:57 #376175

shmuel Current streak: 578 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 340 Karma: 14	joetyh wrote on 19 Jan 2022 14:52: i need to learn how to let myself let go so I can cry The mindfulness tracks on the new hotline might be helpful in allowing yourself to really feel

Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 15:09 #376177

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Shmuel wrote on 19 Jan 2022 14:57:

joetyh wrote on 19 Jan 2022 14:52:

i need to learn how to let myself let go so I can cry

The mindfulness tracks on the new hotline might be helpful in allowing yourself to really feel

646-GYE-6600 (646-493-6600)

Press 2 For help with addictive behaviors
Press 2 If you’re struggling with an urge right nowWe added there many great "mindfulness" & "urge surfing" recordings...

The hotline now has a new section with many "Jewish Mindfulness" recordings by Dr. Yoni Feiner, author of the fantastic book Mindfulness: A Jewish Approach.

Shortcuts:
To access this new collection dial 646-GYE-6600 ext. 19.
To access the regular Mindfulness collection, use ext. 18 (for info on the general collection see this post.)

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
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Re: This time will be better 19 Jan 2022 15:55 #376178

joetyh Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 182 Karma: 20	i have a bunch of these mindfulness audios downloaded i need to start listening to them
	feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com

Re: This time will be better 20 Jan 2022 07:04 #376209

joetyh Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 182 Karma: 20	yes actually getting to listen to them is difficult cuz it would be weird if some guy walks into my room while I'm zoned out taking them deep breaths......
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Re: This time will be better 20 Jan 2022 07:35 #376212

joetyh Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 182 Karma: 20	we on day 3!!! B"H!!!!! Now the goal is Day 4....
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Re: This time will be better 20 Jan 2022 07:43 #376213

joetyh Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 182 Karma: 20	I'm a little nervous about the weekend... I'm going away for shabbos with a bunch of families and many of them have older girls which can be triggering...
	feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com

Re: This time will be better 20 Jan 2022 07:46 #376214

joetyh Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 182 Karma: 20	but I gotta keep in mind it's normal for a man to have taavos and just because I get triggered it doesnt mean I have to have a fall.... I can just shrug it off and move on to enjoying shabbos. and thats what I am going to do BezH!!! (and obviously try to keep my eyes away)
	feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com