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Re: This time will be better 13 Mar 2022 00:35 #378488

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Amazing! Withdrawal symptoms may hit at some point, but push through the pain no matter what.
If you are wondering why you can't stop masturbating even though you're guarding your eyes, it's because you're fantasizing.

Re: This time will be better 13 Mar 2022 02:16 #378491

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joetyh wrote on 12 Mar 2022 18:32:
13 days!!!!!
With Hashem’s help I will make it through this mtzsh clean and be on 2 weeks!!!!
I feel weak at the moment so I will probably stay away from anything that may trigger me even if it usually doesn’t 


You are an amazing inspiration 
That's a huge step in this battle to know yourself (the most or one of the most important thing in life ayin alei shur) and where you are weak and to run from those situations
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

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My thread
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Re: This time will be better 13 Mar 2022 09:11 #378501

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2 weeks!!!!!! 14 days B”H!!!!!!!
My mind is clean from porn and real lusting for 2 weeks!!!! That’s an incredible accomplishment!!!!! I will celebrate it but it’s behind me I must focus on today!! 
I beg Hashem for another day clean!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 13 Mar 2022 19:39 #378531

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I don’t know what it is but I am super triggered today, it could be anxiety but idk… I am not interested in acting out and falling so I hate to break it to Mr. Yetzer Hara but I ain’t giving in….
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 14 Mar 2022 10:36 #378575

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Day 15…
I was so so so close to falling yesterday but I couldn’t afford it.
I got out of bed at like 3:30 AM went to the roof and spoke to Hashem until I calmed down… 
I am begging you Hashem for another day clean but make it an easy one!!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 14 Mar 2022 13:22 #378578

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AMAZING JOETYH!!!!! You are such an inspiration!!!!
Keep on pushing through the pain!!! It will get less and less as you are able to sidestep and move on from lustful thoughts and keep your eyes guarded.
If you are wondering why you can't stop masturbating even though you're guarding your eyes, it's because you're fantasizing.

Re: This time will be better 15 Mar 2022 07:41 #378633

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16 days behind me!!!!! 
Purim is coming up which was always very rough because I don’t drink so I feel lonely and there are so many girls that think purim is an excuse to wear lingerie and cat ears…. Rachmana litzlan!!! But this year will be different!!!!
but before we worry about Purim there’s today to think about 
Hashem please give me the ability to stay clean today!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 15 Mar 2022 07:55 #378634

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Very happy for you. Each step forward that you take will be met with even more siyaata dshmaya.

You should be celebrating on Purim! Plan ahead and enjoy the day.
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some of the experiences I write about may make it easier to identify me.  This is ok.  I trust that if anyone discovers my identity they will keep it to themselves.  If you do realize that you  know me, I am completely comfortable and welcome you acknowledging me and my struggle in person.

Re: This time will be better 16 Mar 2022 10:11 #378686

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Whoa that was scary…. I almost went flat on my face…. I B”H stopped myself but not enough…. This is a slip which is not ok but it’s not a fall….
so we have 17 days behind me and I’m begging Hashem to please help me stay clean
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 18 Mar 2022 09:04 #378759

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Ah freilechen Purim from yerushalayim ir hakoidesh!!!!! Today there are 19 days behind me clean from porn and really acting out!!!!
I am asking hashem to help me stay away from nisyonos and it says כל הפושט יד נותנים לו!!!!
I will beat this but for now I am focusing on today 
I don’t need to notice what every girl is dressed up like but if I do notice it can stop there Bez”H 
I made a commitment last night to my Rosh Yeshiva to Bli Neder learn in Kollel for 5 YEARS!!!!!
yes me the boy who was never going to go to Eretz Yisroel with dumb plans of starting to date 2 years ago and go to work which B”H never happened!!!!!!!!
I love you all!!!!!
As my Rosh Yeshiva says “today on Purim we don’t see people, we see neshamos” over here it’s more like “we don’t see usernames we see the most heilege neshamos in the world!!!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 
Last Edit: 18 Mar 2022 09:04 by joetyh.

Re: This time will be better 18 Mar 2022 17:55 #378765

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Wow.  You are building mountains.  
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guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/375452-Work-in-progress

The Battle of the Generation by Hillel S. has been a huge help for me.  Message me to find out how you can receive a free copy.



some of the experiences I write about may make it easier to identify me.  This is ok.  I trust that if anyone discovers my identity they will keep it to themselves.  If you do realize that you  know me, I am completely comfortable and welcome you acknowledging me and my struggle in person.

Re: This time will be better 19 Mar 2022 17:02 #378772

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Wow purim was BEAUTIFUL B”H!!!! So was Shabbos!!!!
I am B”H 20 clean and I hope With Hashem’s help I can be clean tonight Bez”H and make it to 21!!

Tomorrow will be the Levaya of Maran Sar Hatorah Reb Chaim Kanievsky I am a little afraid to go because I am petrified of crowds (I always hated crowds but when my very close friend A”H was trampled in Meron it didn’t help) so I will be stressed out tonight but stress equals dealing with it not masturbating 
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 

Re: This time will be better 20 Mar 2022 01:52 #378778

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Bro, you’re not stam. You have a great attitude. If you go to the levaya, there’s really no need to try to get close. Go to be part of the klal and for kovoid hameis, and to gain hisoirirus. 

Dealing with stress is so tough without porn. At least you’re able to identify clearly what is causing your stress. Good luck with it. Safe trip tomorrow.

Re: This time will be better 20 Mar 2022 04:59 #378783

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No words to say besides
you are a real inspiration
much hatzlacha
RIDE THE WAVES.
Keep Fighting because thats why you're alive! 
Never ever give up no matter how many times you fall.
If you are about to fall call someone for chizuk.
DON'T FALL,CALL.

Check out easypeasymethod.org

My thread
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/375231-looking-for-chizuk

Re: This time will be better 20 Mar 2022 13:55 #378791

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21 days!!!! 3 weeks!!!!!!
I Thank Hashem that I am here and I beg him for another day clean!!!!

The levaya was gorgeous and I just stayed near my Rosh yeshiva most of the time. B”H it was not too bad and there was not much pushing and the crowd was pretty spread out. Plus we were super close to the mittah.

Right when we arrived very early to the levaya I noticed a very pretty girl standing on the porch directly across from me wearing a flashy color making her very noticeable and in my mind she was looking at me too… (could be she was could be she wasn’t I will probably never know) and I really wanted to look at her but I couldn’t afford to have her on my mind so after a bit of back and forth I turned around and faced the stores.

I WON!!! Eat that yetzer hara!!!!
feel free to contact me with chizzuk or to stam shmuz @ joestyh@gmail.com 
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