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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 13 Jan 2010 16:23 #45307

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Definitely something important to work on...incredible. Not easy, but I have confidence that you can do it!
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 13 Jan 2010 20:16 #45434

sci1977 Current streak: 438 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 895 Karma: 0	Working on it and actually finding it easier then I thought it would be. True trust in G-d really helps in the forgiveness business.
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 13 Jan 2010 22:56 #45508

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Wow...that's awesome! You never cease to amaze me!
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 14 Jan 2010 13:02 #45620

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It is really admirable that you are working so hard at trying to forgive. If you can do it, great.

I don't want to be a spoil-sport, but I am saying this because it might be helpful:

If they never acknowledged they did anything wrong, if they never asked for an apology, if they never said they're sorry, and if they never tried to make ammends...

MAYBE YOU DON'T HAVE TO FORGIVE THEM!

...and maybe that's why it's so hard to do it.

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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 14 Jan 2010 15:19 #45681

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OK, so eye you are half right. The family member never would appologize. But, I know for myself I need to forgive. I think in a weird way I have already. But SB made a wonderful point, put in the side of the road. I am very close to be able to put it to the side of the road. I think what this is called just my head getting healthy for real. I can do the steps, GUE and work on my marriage but true happiness for me needs to continue on without this. I think if I forgive, I will be able to do that.

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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 28 Jan 2010 15:37 #49137

sci1977 Current streak: 438 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 895 Karma: 0	OK, update on forgiveness of family memeber. I was able to sit down and really talk to G-d about this a few days ago and discovered that in the middle of talking to him, I was not going to discuss it anymore in my own head. Why?? It's time to move on. Not sure what I am going to concentrate on next but will update this thread once I figure it out. SB, it's on the side of the road.
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 28 Jan 2010 16:25 #49151

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Moving on is good...and not focusing on it is probably a good idea. And I'm sure you're aware that there will still be plenty of leftover feelings, but the more you're aware of them, and face them honestly, the more it'll dissipate. You are truly incredible.
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 28 Jan 2010 16:42 #49163

sci1977 Current streak: 438 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 895 Karma: 0	It's at a point where I am happy to move on and think about other things I need to work on deeply. Already started to work on one, but will need to discuss with Guard if appropriate to put on the website.
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 28 Jan 2010 16:54 #49172

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Absolutely - very often, when we work on one issue, we then need to work on other areas...and sometimes come back later and do more work on the first issue...
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 28 Jan 2010 20:29 #49229

aryehtahor Current streak: 50 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 187 Karma: 1	I just read your story in the first post. I relate a lot to your situation then and also now. You rock! You should have only the maximum in living from now on!
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 29 Jan 2010 06:59 #49466

Eye.nonymous OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 2696 Karma: 15	I really think you're doing the right thing. Good luck! KUTGW
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 29 Jan 2010 09:44 #49483

imtrying25 Current streak: 16 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3010 Karma: 2	Sci i just caught up on this thread. your awesome!
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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 29 Jan 2010 21:14 #49635

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Thanks guys for the kind words. I am just trying to move forward to the next chapter of what I need to work on. I am finding if you sort of take em one by one instead of all at one time, I get much further.

Also, thank you all for have posted in this thread. I feel I have two seperate threads. One that is dealing with the everyday feelings of recovery and one that deal with the big issues that are bothering me and the ones I am working on for a long period of time. For me having them seperate is really working out well.

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Re: SCI1977, How I got here 30 Jan 2010 20:32 #49662

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sci1977 wrote on 29 Jan 2010 21:14:

every heard the story of the turtle and the rabbit?? I should probaly ask, have you ever gone to 2nd grade!! Cuz if ya did you prob read this story. You remind me of the turtle. In a good way. lEts take things slow. And well get far!

Keep on rollin!

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