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Not a good day 03 Jun 2021 15:09 #369412

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So yesterday was not a good day for me--in a moment of strength I added sites to be blocked and pictures to be removed, however throughout the rest of the day the phone became my fall twice, all the way. I had almost made it to two weeks.

Posting for accountability and chizuk. Thank you to the dear friend here on GYE, can't get help from spouse and the people here are my lifeline.

​Please don't judge, just accept me as I am please..I can only do day by day trying to get some clean streaks...

TG

Re: Not a good day 03 Jun 2021 16:20 #369415

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Who are we to judge? 
It is said over in the name of the Baal Shem Tov that one who sees faults in others, really has that fault in themselves. And perhaps the one who sees the fault "more", the more he himself has that particular fault or bad trait, etc.

שנינו (נגעים ב', ה') כל הנגעים אדם רואה חוץ מנגעי עצמו, ופירש הבעל שם טוב הקדוש, כל הנגעים שאדם רואה חוץ, זה נמשך מנגעי עצמו, כמאמר רבותינו ז"ל (קידושין ע' א) כל הפוסל במומו פוסל 
"One may examine anyone's leprosy except one's own" (Negaim 2:5) that that which one perceived as negative on others, stems from his possessing the same fault.
תורתו של הבעל שם טוב, שכאשר אדם רואה רע בזולתו, הרי זו הוכחה ש(דוגמת) אותו הרע נמצא בו בעצמו. וכמו אדם המביט בראי – "אם פניו נקיים, אינו רואה במראה שום דופי", אבל אם הוא רואה לכלוך וכתם בראי, אין זה אלא משום ש"פניו מטונפין"
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
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Re: Not a good day 03 Jun 2021 17:45 #369418

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DavidT wrote on 03 Jun 2021 16:20:
Who are we to judge? 
It is said over in the name of the Baal Shem Tov that one who sees faults in others, really has that fault in themselves. And perhaps the one who sees the fault "more", the more he himself has that particular fault or bad trait, etc.

שנינו (נגעים ב', ה') כל הנגעים אדם רואה חוץ מנגעי עצמו, ופירש הבעל שם טוב הקדוש, כל הנגעים שאדם רואה חוץ, זה נמשך מנגעי עצמו, כמאמר רבותינו ז"ל (קידושין ע' א) כל הפוסל במומו פוסל 
"One may examine anyone's leprosy except one's own" (Negaim 2:5) that that which one perceived as negative on others, stems from his possessing the same fault.
תורתו של הבעל שם טוב, שכאשר אדם רואה רע בזולתו, הרי זו הוכחה ש(דוגמת) אותו הרע נמצא בו בעצמו. וכמו אדם המביט בראי – "אם פניו נקיים, אינו רואה במראה שום דופי", אבל אם הוא רואה לכלוך וכתם בראי, אין זה אלא משום ש"פניו מטונפין"

So true.

It is also commonly said that someone who judges others, is judgmental of themselves. They judge others because they cannot live with themselves without putting others down. 

A healthy person accepts others for who they are (then maybe they can also learn to accept themselves). 

@TG, hang in there, one day at a time is great.
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