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Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 01:43 #367738

  • Grant400
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All right! Let's get straight to it.

R' Eliezer, better known as "Lou" and I, both fell off really long streaks of a few months, and needed some help getting back up. So I suggested a 90 day challenge, with the loser having to give $150 to a tzedaka of his choice (preferably GYE obvs...).

There seems to have been an interest among many more users here, so let us welcome all of you to the party!

Whoever would like to join please respond on this topic. Welcome.

Here are the rules:

Starting from when you accept the challenge, for the next 90 days everyone who joins accepts upon themselves BL"N to post if they fall, and must give $150 to tzedaka. Even if someone falls that does not absolve the other participants of their kabalah.

If someone acts out, it adds $2 onto everyone's kabalah. Meaning if one person fails, he must give $150, but the next must give $152. This is in order to place a certain level of responsibility upon us not to misbehave, because it will cause others to lose additional money. One clause, there is a ceiling, it can never go over $200.

Anyone can join. Regardless of where their count is holding, it is 90 days from when they accept the challenge.

After accepting, you will be held accountable.

(R' Lou, please let me know if you would like to join according to theses new rules, if not we can keep the old version for you.)

Last Edit: 02 May 2021 04:03 by Grant400.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 02:28 #367747

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Git Voch,

I would like to join as well.
I don't like to count days, however I accept on myself BL"N to update the Oilam if I c"v fall within this 90 day period and to BL"N give $150 to Tzedakah. (Or whatever the price is set at that time as per Grant's rules).

Hatzlacha Rabba
My email address is: growinghigher613@gmail.com

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 05:54 #367767

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I am in according to the new rules. I just hope no one falls otherwise the calculations may get a bit complicated....
Thank you R Grant!

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 06:03 #367771

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Lou wrote on 02 May 2021 05:54:
I am in according to the new rules. I just hope no one falls otherwise the calculations may get a bit complicated....
Thank you R Grant!

You'all heard?
DON'T MAKE IT COMPLICATED!!!

Wishing you you'all much success!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 06:36 #367776

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Zedj wrote on 02 May 2021 06:03:

Lou wrote on 02 May 2021 05:54:
I am in according to the new rules. I just hope no one falls otherwise the calculations may get a bit complicated....
Thank you R Grant!

You'all heard?
DON'T MAKE IT COMPLICATED!!!

Wishing you you'all much success!

Thank you!
R' Zedj
I read through the rules a few times and I can't find where it says that if you are holding past 90 you can't join....Join us!

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 06:49 #367777

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I’m in as well
There are  some very stressful situations coming up for me in the upcoming months so I could definitely use the extra chizzuk.

Bonus -its a privilege to take part in such a beautiful unique instance of Achdus.

Good luck !

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 13:08 #367781

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Awesome! Welcome Lou, Lionking and i-man! C'mon guys, join!!!!

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 15:00 #367785

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If two of you make it to 90, I will bli neder give $300 to GYE - as per my commitment in Lou's thread. For each additional participant, I will bli neder give an additional $10 to a tzedaka / tzedakos of my choice - with a cumulative cap of $400 in total. (so I am on the hook for 12 participants)....
And please remind me when the 90 days are up.

It would mean a lot to me if other sponsors joined me!!

And oh, one more thing. I am still very much struggling; so please don't perceive me as sitting on a snobby ivory tower...that is NOT the case! I completely consider myself part of this endeavor, albeit from a slightly different angle. Yaalah chevra!

Rooting like crazy from Grodno ~ IMG 

ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

 Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro 

Feel free to reach out to me at
jackz90dys@gmail.com

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 16:22 #367798

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R' Eliezer, better known as "Lou"


If I am Eliezer,does that make you Gershon or maybe Gavriel???

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 16:25 #367800

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Lou wrote on 02 May 2021 16:22:


R' Eliezer, better known as "Lou"


If I am Eliezer,does that make you Gershon or maybe Gavriel???

I'm gonna guess the Granat

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 16:42 #367802

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Bags packed, goodbyes said, excitement in the air,
To celebrate with R' Shimon, the hour drawing near,

Hearts ablaze with holy flames, souls started to sing,
Infused with light, fortified for what their life may bring,

Suddenly reports came in painful beyond belief,
Euphoria and ecstasy, now turned sorrow and grief,

News too painful to bear forces its way through the door,
Hearts groaning in agony, please Hashem no more,

Precious lives snuffed out, like a candle in the dark,
Ilumination extinguished without leaving a spark,

Words like "Why?" and "How could it be?" on the tip of our tongues,
Each breath pierces our hearts, a dagger through our lungs,

We cannot be begin to decipher the messages of our desperate plight,
We cannot speak your language, nor read the letters you write,

Yet we understand what you convey, it is not in vain,
We all speak the same dialect, a heart so full of pain,

We received the message you are sending, we bow our heads in shame,
As long as nothing changes, everything will remain the same,

We will not let the tears we shed, become yesterday's story,
We must do our best make a change, and raise their souls in glory.


Please join the challenge l'iluy nishmas kedoshei Meron!!!!

Last Edit: 02 May 2021 16:53 by Grant400.

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 17:07 #367804

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I'm in for the challenge (till day 180 for me). Posting for accountability here that I will donate with my own money not with my parents money
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


My thread: 
Aiming to be better

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 18:32 #367809

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I’m in! Thank you reb grant for the beautiful idea in response to the tragedy!

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 19:16 #367811

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Challenge Accepted!
I think I was actually the first one to accept Grant's challenge on the other thread (even though it wasn't yet addressed to me...).
Gonna start again from today if that's what everyone else is doing.

Moish

Re: Challenge Accepted!!! 02 May 2021 19:34 #367812

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