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250 days clean and now It's gettin hard 26 Oct 2020 20:11 #356720

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Hello! I need some help. I am single guy, with 250 days clean of masturbation, looking is still a fight and now I'm trying to hang out but the Ietzer hara's power its getting bigger and spring comes with hot temperatures and It's all worse.
I'm worried about failing because all the good things I've done won't be important anymore.

Any advice?
Last Edit: 26 Oct 2020 20:13 by nomore1.

Re: 250 days clean and now It's gettin hard 26 Oct 2020 21:15 #356722

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Read The Battle of the Generation https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation to give you a boost every day. (Especially it will help you really feel that each victory is priceless and there's no way 250 days could be worthless.)

Also check out 
Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge
Last Edit: 26 Oct 2020 21:16 by Captain.

Re: 250 days clean and now It's gettin hard 26 Oct 2020 21:51 #356724

250 days clean of masturbation! Wow!
First off I want to congratulate you! It must have been quite some struggle to get to where you are now.

You have gotten so far, don't give up now. Keep reminding yourself why you want to keep yourself clean. Sometimes after being clean for so long we can forget how hard it was when we were dealing with the fight and how frustrated we were when giving in. The yetzer hora tries to use this against us.

You say that you're worried that if you fall, all the good things you've done won't be important anymore. Personally I don't believe that Judaism is black and white. I don't think that that ( Judaism not being black and white) should be an excuse to give in. But I do believe that if someone gives in it doesn't disqualify him and his every deed to be nullified.

I know it's hard. You've gotten so far, I truly believe that with dedication and prayer, you'll have the siyata dishmaya to continue doing great things.

PS: Personally I've found that posting here when weak can also really help as it keeps me accountable and there is always someone to give me chizuk. So my advice would be, whenever you're feeling a bit edgy, just keep posting.
Last Edit: 26 Oct 2020 22:00 by anonymousmillenial.

Re: 250 days clean and now It's gettin hard 27 Oct 2020 02:04 #356733

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Welcome. You should be advising the crowd here! Maybe share how you got to where you are up to. As far as your question, a partner may be very beneficial.
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: 250 days clean and now It's gettin hard 27 Oct 2020 03:31 #356737

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Nomore1 wrote on 26 Oct 2020 20:11:
Hello! I need some help. I am single guy, with 250 days clean of masturbation, looking is still a fight and now I'm trying to hang out but the Ietzer hara's power its getting bigger and spring comes with hot temperatures and It's all worse.
I'm worried about failing because all the good things I've done won't be important anymore.

Any advice?

Maybe come to the Northern Hemisphere for the next few months...
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: 250 days clean and now It's gettin hard 19 Nov 2020 18:20 #357564

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Ooohh... You're in Australia! Was confusing at first. But 250 days! Wow! You gotta share some tips with us here!
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