Living for tomorrow mean that I live today to do something that I will be happy about tomorrow.

I was on the call with Dr. Fish and it was great. it made me realize how much inner work I need to do to really take control of my life.

Dr Fish mentioned that he worked with frum drug addicts for a while and he treated about 100. Since he started to work with internet addicts he has treated HUNDREDS. I don't remember the number of years he worked with each but I would assume that when you break down the numbers to people per year that there are many times more internet addicts than drug addicts. Think about this guys and do something to spread the word about our site. There are so many people living in such pain.

Hi guys.I am now 12 days clean. I am starting to get a little weak around the edges. I know that focusing on personal growth will help that. As will looking for ways to be very careful about guarding myself.

This morning I woke up and had a thought in my mind I should fall. I was not down or anything like that. I am wondering if anyone has an insight into why this would happen?

Everyone is different. I get those feeling sometimes too. It usually comes on the begining of the day and im like, ok i have no intereset in anything today and no fighting the yh and etc etc. The way for me is to focus on one day at  time. Im gonna do it just today. Today only.

Hatzlacha and i hope  was of some help!

I saw something I find relevant and I think it may help others. it is a quote from Nelson Mandala's inauguration speech.


Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

That was really nice. Thanks for sharing!!!

I am feeling weak, getting big urges from time to time. I am looking for advice from you guys.

Why are u here Holyyid? A large part of those urges is from withdrawal (and not being careful with our eyes). Live life and give to others and for the most part the urges will pass.

Oh, and please take it one day at a time.

at least for now, i'd say to just keep your mind active. just from looking at the chart, you're at 15 days (18 with an update  ) so your doing great. i'd say that now is a good time to just browse around the site and look to review what you know of shemiras einayim and you'll also pick up on some new tidbits. remember, even as we move along towards the 90-day goal, the  idea is to constantly be growing. and also, if you do feel your y"h knocking, figure out a game-plan that you can do. dont just say you'll study torah but actually have a list of things that you can do.

other than that, i can only say keep up the good work!!!

Holy Yid wrote on 23 Feb 2010 02:09:


Hey Holy Yid,

I hope everything os going well on your front. I like to read old posts of mine. It gets me to realize where I was and where I am right now.

All the best!

-Yiddle

For starters,
say NO to those urges!
And then call up a friend or two and go hang out for a bit.
Learn, sing, eat and get some sleep.

Wishing you hatzlacha!

Yes having people to call is extremely helpful. And realize that the urges are normal, and we dont need to take action on them. Tell yourself ok its like having a hunger pain on a ta'anis, ill justy take my mind off of it vezehu.

And of course like Cleareyes613 said, take it one day at a time!

Thank you for responding. It helps to know you care about me.

I am doing better. I am being very careful with my eyes for the rest of the week and am keeping my eyes busy.

Keep on trucking - and find something to do that'll keep you busy and hopefully happy!

Holy Yid wrote on 24 Feb 2010 20:12:
hatzlacha Holy Yid. Ke'shmo kein hu!!!!!