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Not sure where i'm holding 13 Oct 2020 18:53 #356093

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Hi, i'm new here. I'm a bachur who is forever trying to break free from this terrible mindset. I'm not exactly sure where i'm holding but sometimes the yetzer harah gets the better of me and i get the pull to look at pritzus. I dont watch porn as i sort of draw the fine line between worse and even worse but somehow looking at pritzus became muttur in my eyes. How can i break away from this constant draw for pleasure?

Re: Not sure where i'm holding 13 Oct 2020 19:06 #356094

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Hey there!
Welcome to GYE. The first thing that you have to know is that you can do it.
The second thing you have to know is what “it” is...
Meaning to say, that you have to define exactly what it is you struggle with Shmiras eynaim (on the street, on the computer etc.) and then you can try to determine a strategy for overcoming it.

Hatzlacha!

I am a bochur with a passion for meaning and truth, searching to remain clean and live a holy and fulfilling life.

If you are reading this-you have a friend in me.
Feel free to PM me and I'll share my offline contact information, so we can call and text. I'd be honored if you'd trust me with your story and promise to support you in any way I possibly can.
I've been on GYE for over 7 years. "I may walk slow, but I never walk back" (-Abraham Lincoln?).
(For the background and meaning of my username- see Tanya chapter 15).

My current thread

Re: Not sure where i'm holding 15 Oct 2020 15:20 #356267

dave m Current streak: 363 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 488 Karma: 33	Have you perused through GYE for all the great tools available? Definitely start by readying the GYE handbook.
	https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/338039-Trying-to-elevate-my-shmiras-einayim https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/341240-How-I-made-it-to-140-days-clean

Re: Not sure where i'm holding 15 Oct 2020 15:57 #356272

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 2918 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 4070	You have come to the right place. Hang around and you will iyh pick up techniques that will help you. You will start recognizing what triggers you and what you can do to minimize the "pull". Hatzlocha buddy.
	Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: Not sure where i'm holding 15 Oct 2020 16:18 #356273

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Check out these great free resources:

The Battle of the Generation https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation.

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight /

In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

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