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close to 40 struggling 26 Mar 2019 22:00 #340028

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can any one relate ? dont what put any thoughts in your mind if its not your nissayon
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Re: close to 40 struggling when wife is ossur 26 Mar 2019 23:07 #340030

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Avner wrote on 26 Mar 2019 22:00:
can any one relate ? dont what put any thoughts in your mind if its not your nissayon

Personally, I struggled/struggle much more when we were mutar. There are, however, many in your shoes. Many threads have been dedicated to this issue.
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Re: close to 40 struggling when wife is ossur 27 Mar 2019 00:55 #340041

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Avner wrote on 26 Mar 2019 22:00:
can any one relate ? dont what put any thoughts in your mind if its not your nissayon

I think you should describe yourself better.
​Do you struggle during normal periods +/- 2 weeks till Mikva,  or is your wife Nida for a longer time like after birth, problems getting clean etc'.
 *  NO, It's not all or nothing, just every bit counts!
 *  I failed yesterday, and I might fail tomorrow. But just for today I'm going to give it a try.
 *  Being curios made me lust and get into trouble.
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Re: close to 40 struggling when wife is ossur 27 Mar 2019 04:22 #340051

Efsher we can move this to bb thread so us crazy bochurim don't get triggered...
Joined as a single bochur, Bh broke free (but still on watch) by using the tools on this website, therapy but mainly through getting married. 

הנותן עיניו במה שאינו שלו, מה שמבקש לא נותנים לו, ומה שבידו נוטלים ממנה

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Re: close to 40 struggling when wife is ossur 27 Mar 2019 04:39 #340053

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Shnitzel and kugel wrote on 27 Mar 2019 04:22:
Efsher we can move this to bb thread so us crazy bochurim don't get triggered...

Triggered by what exactly?
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Re: close to 40 struggling when wife is ossur 27 Mar 2019 04:52 #340057

Triggered by reading the details mentioned above which just causes inappropriate thoughts which is unnecessary if it can be avoided by using the bb forum to discuss those details etc.
Am I that off?
Joined as a single bochur, Bh broke free (but still on watch) by using the tools on this website, therapy but mainly through getting married. 

הנותן עיניו במה שאינו שלו, מה שמבקש לא נותנים לו, ומה שבידו נוטלים ממנה

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Re: close to 40 struggling when wife is ossur 27 Mar 2019 05:39 #340059

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Shnitzel and kugel wrote on 27 Mar 2019 04:52:
Triggered by reading the details mentioned above which just causes inappropriate thoughts which is unnecessary if it can be avoided by using the bb forum to discuss those details etc.
Am I that off?

This fellow doesn't have access to the bb forum so he posted here. There are no triggerin' details on this thread. You know about niddah and muttar and assur. The hallway by your shul is more triggerin' than this thread.
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