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Re: Women Co-Workers 19 Dec 2017 23:27 #323958

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cordnoy wrote on 19 Dec 2017 04:07:

fresh start wrote on 19 Dec 2017 03:27:

mishtaper wrote on 18 Dec 2017 01:31:
What works for me is to remind myself that my brain likes to tell me a story that "she is warming up to me" like my wife says what made you think that she's interested at all she has a life. Good luck and hang in there. 

I think you may be on to something here. I like what you are saying. The same point was shared with me by a saintly lurker on the forum.

Ouch!

Not sure if I've been called worse. Oh right, when I first joined, they pegged me right as an egotistical self-centered bastard. It didn't take long for them to figure me out.

Hey cord, you gave yourself out. And as a matter of fact, I like the name!  Saintly lurker it is. I wish I bump into one of those in the near future. 
Last Edit: 19 Dec 2017 23:29 by LoveU,Hashem.

Re: Women Co-Workers 20 Dec 2017 10:47 #323988

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tzaddik212 wrote on 19 Dec 2017 03:29:
 "but I try to stick to the guidelines of my Ruv" 

What are the guidelines of your Ruv?

I should be nice to them, but not friendly.
(I may look at her when I talk to her, but when not, I keep my  eyes to myself.) I don't know if you agree
I avoid calling her by the name.
Knowing well hilchos yichud.
I try to make a kidush hashem. (being an example) 

But I'm sure that this was told for me, and everyone should see what works for them the best.
 *  NO, It's not all or nothing, just every bit counts!
 *  I failed yesterday, and I might fail tomorrow. But just for today I'm going to give it a try.
 *  Being curios made me lust and get into trouble.
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Re: Women Co-Workers 25 Dec 2017 03:00 #324154

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cordnoy wrote on 19 Dec 2017 04:07:

fresh start wrote on 19 Dec 2017 03:27:

mishtaper wrote on 18 Dec 2017 01:31:
What works for me is to remind myself that my brain likes to tell me a story that "she is warming up to me" like my wife says what made you think that she's interested at all she has a life. Good luck and hang in there. 

I think you may be on to something here. I like what you are saying. The same point was shared with me by a saintly lurker on the forum.

Ouch!

Not sure if I've been called worse. Oh right, when I first joined, they pegged me right as an egotistical self-centered bastard. It didn't take long for them to figure me out.

Feel free to always turn to me for a bite of humble pie. 

Re: Women Co-Workers 28 Dec 2017 00:31 #324300

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B"H

I think you need to report to your Rav much more frequently than once a week.  Try after every close call.  Close, not as in almost capitulating, l"r.  Rather, close in any conversation with even the slightest friendly overtures.  This way, IY"H, you'll build a fence around this mitzvah.  In addition, try saying a kapital tehillim before every time you know you'll have to interact with her, even by texting or email.  Ask HaShem to help you to have true shalom bayis.  With HaShem's help, you'll be able to start a new type of clean streak.  Hatzlocha rabba!
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