Just reminding myself how dangerously stupid it is to fantasize about old times. Even when it's not a trigger, thinking about how good the "good old days" were is a very, very, VERY bad idea. Aside from the fact that I know that i was empty and really unhappy inside, it also means that I delude myself into remaining in the past.

Escapes, in one form or another, means that we...I don't face the present. Which means that I don't see all the wonderful goodness that it has to offer. Not as easy as staying in a dream, but much better.

KEEP MOVING!


Don't slow the momentum!


May each moment be followed by an even better moment!!!

Haven't posted in a while, so just wanted to drop in. Not much new, B"H things are going well.

Sometimes, when I see a possible test coming towards me, I'll take off my glasses even just for a minute, and breathe a sigh of relief that I didn't have to deal with it.

its great to hear how you're doing! we miss you around here! keep up the good work

Your enthusiasm is great to see.. to learn from...

Yossis Alayich time yet, oh silent one?? (as in kimsos chassan al kallah, in other words, are you gonna tell us when you become a married man? Zoll zein mit mazel und gezunt bis 120)

Hi, Briut! Yes, i am married 

Let's have a little rikud right here!

Mazal Tov Mazal Tov!! im so happy for u (and a little jealous too that you got married clean i mean...) may u always be besimcha!

The Yiddishe velt has just gained a bayis ne'eman b'yisroel. One with a good clean start and a strong foundation and a battle silently victorious. You done good, kid.

Mazel tov.

That's my big problem (and I imagine a common one here).
I know that the world H" created is a beautiful place, but sometimes I prefer to worship in the world I create.
Isn't that a big source of depression too? Not appreciating the world that was created just for me?
Or perhaps the problem is that we focus our appreciation on one specific thing instead of how great it all is.
How great the human body is, with all its organs, each with so many parts, millions of cells all doing their job, and yet I focus on one organ.

To find the balance, that's the key.
Shalom Aleichem.
It's not just a greeting, it's a blessing.
Is peace not the balance between opposing forces?

Sorry if this is nothing more than just thinking aloud

Shalom Aleichem.

Mazel Tov, SilentBattle!

ToAdd, that was a beautiful post. Shalom Aleichem to you too.

ToAdd, that's an interesting point - I'm going to think that over further.

Thank you, Briut, Honest Mouse, Zmiros Shabbos - it's you guys that helped me get to where I needed to be!

In other news, I've been reminding myself recently of something that's easy to forget. A) Looking at women in any kind of desire-driven way, is wrong. It's not healthy, it's assur, and it leads me down a road of destruction. Looking at women that are not dressed tzniyus is also a bad idea, for all the above reasons. And not tzniyus can mean pants, or short sleeves - it doesn't have to be extreme to be assur. G-rated can be assur, too.

Lust is a spirtual static that prevents god from getting in.We cant feel his presence and his goodness.
the arizal suggests before davening to be mekabel vhavta lreacha kamocha. When wrapped up in self we cant feel hashem. Its no suprise that the amud of chesed found the baal habirah.

As an aside, I've heard that as an explanation for the destruction of the bayis sheni. When we say that there was sinas chinum, that wasn't just a cause - it was a symptom of being disconnected.

silentbattle wrote on 21 Oct 2010 18:32:


With all very due respect and love for you, the "ninja-dude of GYE" and "sensei of good sense", to consider changing the word 'assur' to 'sakonah'.

If this perspective does not work for you, or seems silly at all, then just forget it! And I fully respect that - not that it should matter to you or anybody. I know that different approaches are needed for different folks. But can you at least 'try it on like a shirt' for a minute and see if it feels right to you?

In the meantime, be well (and Mazel Tov, again).

- troublemaker