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Re: making the silent 27 Dec 2009 14:26 #38470

loi-misyaeish	...and mine too! Now you've got two best friends.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 27 Dec 2009 14:29 #38472

Momo Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1288 Karma: 3	Loneliness, restlessness, irritability, and discontent are the number one-two-three-four reasons to act out. When you start to feel any of these, stop it in it's tracks by posting, or calling a friend, or doing something fun for yourself (kosher fun ).
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 27 Dec 2009 14:34 #38475

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To be honest, it's more of a long-term thing, for me...which makes it even harder. When I'm feeling lonely, I don't think I'm going to act out right then, certainly not in the area that is most important for me to work on. But I know that if it stretches on like that, it'll certainly become more of a nisayon. And I'd like to avoid that, if I can.

So even if it means sounding whiny and asking for a hug, I'm going to do that!

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Re: making the silent battle...not. 27 Dec 2009 14:38 #38477

Momo Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1288 Karma: 3	Go ahead and ask for that hug. If I'm online, I'll give it to you. I think the key is to stop those bad emotions in their tracks, and not wait until they build up. Think of a small snowball rolling down a snowy hill.....
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 27 Dec 2009 14:49 #38481

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Exactly!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 27 Dec 2009 16:06 #38504

the.guard Current streak: 697 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6436 Karma: 137	Momo, I completely don't recognize you lately... You're so different than you used to be! That Reb Shlachter must be doing some good things ;D (or maybe it's just the mane)
	Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest. Last Edit: by potatosticks.

Re: making the silent battle...not. 27 Dec 2009 21:51 #38659

sci1977 Current streak: 438 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 895 Karma: 0	Momo is right on. Just keep thinking positive thoughts and how you want to live. KUTGW!!!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 27 Dec 2009 22:57 #38683

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Just picked up a short shovevim sefer, recommended by my rebbe...If I can get over my laziness and learn it, I'll see if there's anything that would be helpful for everyone...
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Dec 2009 06:12 #38807

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guardureyes wrote on 27 Dec 2009 16:06:

Momo, I completely don't recognize you lately... You're so different than you used to be! That Reb Shlachter must be doing some good things

;D

(or maybe it's just the mane)

Thanks. I feel the personality change too. Actually, it's not a change, it's more of unleashing my personality that's been in hiding for almost 20 years, like breaking through a shell.

Like a butterfly coming out of his cocoon.

Momo "unleashed"!

:D :D :D

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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Dec 2009 13:20 #38909

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Well, Momo, I'm just glad I get to see all the colors as you burst from your cocoon! I haven't been here that long, so I don't really know the "old" Momo that well...So all I can say is, you're awesome!

As far as me...I said good-bye to two people last night that needed saying goodbye to. Particularly in one case, it was tough, painful - even though we hadn't spoken in months, and hadn't really been in touch for almost a year. But it's good, because now I have a true feeling of it being over, and moving on.

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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Dec 2009 13:52 #38925

7yipol Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder YES HE CAN! Posts: 4686 Karma: 12	Glad to hear you are able to retain perspective on the goodbyes. "no pain no gain" really applies at moments like these. Forward march soldier!
	Hashem is addicted to you! Feel His hugs!"Sheva yipol tzaddik VKUM" Last Edit: by keokosal.

Re: making the silent battle...not. 29 Dec 2009 00:34 #39254

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	had a good day today - a bit of temptation, when some thoughts came into my mind, but I kept gently focusing on other things, and moved on! IN other news, I had to tell my boss some worrying (for me) news that I've been holding onto for a while, worried about how he'd react...and he totally understood! Whew!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 29 Dec 2009 01:50 #39268

sci1977 Current streak: 438 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 895 Karma: 0	Great news you had a good day!! Mazel tov on moving on with saying good bye to two people. KUTGW!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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