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Re: making the silent battle...not. 22 Feb 2010 16:13 #54747

sci1977 Current streak: 438 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 895 Karma: 0	A friend of mine growing up had a wonderful saying. I did not listen to him for a long time and now I try to listen to this all the time. Stay calm, cool and collected. Always remember the three "C's"
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 22 Feb 2010 21:03 #54826

onelife Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 247 Karma: 0	MAZAL TOV, my rock!! 8) 8) 8) 8) :-* :-* :-* i saw you consistently strong in your journey, im sure you gonna continue in such way to your new life. and sure you gonna continue to give us your very warm words and chizukim. :-[ YESHAR COACH GADOL OUR ZADDIK!!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 22 Feb 2010 21:26 #54827

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silentbattle wrote on 22 Feb 2010 01:18:

Dov, I think trying123 gets the credit for that one - glad you enjoyed it, though, and glad we could be of help - you've been here for us so many times!

Trying123 - thank you! It's always nice to know that I'm appreciated!

SE - or whoever you are

Not sure what you're saying there, and doubly not sure how you got it even smaller at the end!

Sci - thanks for always being there, and for blazing the trail in front of me! No, no party yet...still open to ideas!?

And thank you to all of you for helping to give me chizuk, and inspire me - watching all of you fight and grow has helped me in ways you can't...well actually, you can imagine, because you've all been here! You've all felt the power of being part of this amazing tzibur!

Hey SB, why wasnt i mentioned in this post?? :-\ :-\ :-\

:D :D

And yes we need to move on with living. Oy when will i finally get there................

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Re: making the silent battle...not. 22 Feb 2010 21:30 #54829

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imtrying25 wrote on 22 Feb 2010 21:26:

silentbattle wrote on 22 Feb 2010 01:18:

Hey SB, why wasnt i mentioned in this post?? :-\ :-\ :-\

:D :D

And yes we need to move on with living. Oy when will i finally get there................

do you need to be mentioned everywhere?

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Re: making the silent battle...not. 22 Feb 2010 21:32 #54831

imtrying25 Current streak: 16 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3010 Karma: 2	Oh no oh no. now everyone is getting on me. I cant anymore!!! :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( Let go and let G-d. Shew now that feels much better.................................. :D :D :D :D
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 22 Feb 2010 23:09 #54867

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:-[ :-[ :-[

I'm sorry, IT25! You totally deserved more than that - I could make excuses - like, i thanked you for the mazal tov in a PM. Or, I could say that your mazal tov was so big, I didn't have any room left to thank you :D

But really - those are just excuses. Thank you for your warm wishes, thank you for being there for me since I got here, and thank you for being you.

In otter news (and no, that's not a misspelling - today's update is published in the otter times, a newspaper exclusively for otters), had some urges today, to act out (mz"l, b"h nothing worse than that)...nothing new about that, I suppose. Sometimes, it's just like, "wow - it's incredible how much I want to do this!"

But I focus on what I really want in life. Which is, life!

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Re: making the silent battle...not. 22 Feb 2010 23:16 #54868

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	Wow! So that's what bards means when he says "L'Chayim!"? ..or does he just mean, "OK, here's some more Woodford". Don't dissappoint me here....
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 22 Feb 2010 23:20 #54871

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Can't it be both? ;D
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 23 Feb 2010 15:04 #54961

sci1977 Current streak: 438 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 895 Karma: 0	KUTGW!!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 23 Feb 2010 15:59 #54970

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Another beautiful day. I remind myself how I want this day to go, and what will make me happy at the end of the day. A secretary at work decided to dress in ways that weren't helpful for me...I feel bad for her. I just need to make sure that my eyes stay where they should be. If I don't need to be in the same room/on the same floor as her, I shouldn't be.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 23 Feb 2010 16:04 #54972

kedusha Current streak: 717 days OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 3167 Karma: 46	Mazal Tov, SB! Your attitude is right on target!
	Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'! Last Edit: by .

Re: making the silent battle...not. 23 Feb 2010 18:02 #54996

shemirateinayim

In the 1950 their nissayon was shabbos. I ask you, what would you do if your boss demended that your job security requires you to work (from home) this shabbos? Would you have a nissayon? Would you win it?

Well the nissayon in our dor is not shabbos, or kashrus (although it's a big issue with over 1000 hecksherim dotting the shelves), but rather p---- and ma----- and all shmiras einayim, simply put ZNUS. Now would you want to be of those who crached under preasur are where mechalilei shabbos? then why are you doing the exact exuivelent. The chumra shebo, is even greater here, in regards to looking at physical people (shiksah's included). So this is only worse! And whereas chillul shabbos was sadly a 'forgivable sin' in those days....SA has yet to reach that level of global awareness (we are still in the denial stage), and therefore your nissayon is still SHUNNED by society (secret SA's in their own right)!

DO you want to do that?

I said this to myself yesterday, when faced with a big nissayon to watch TV, and then to be mz"l . I looked at myself in the mirror, said this to myself, and got so enraged against my Y"H that the nissayon dissipated and was replaced by ann overwhelming urge to be choser betshuva shelaima in these inyanim!

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Re: making the silent battle...not. 23 Feb 2010 18:50 #55009

imtrying25 Current streak: 16 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3010 Karma: 2	SB!! How ya doing?? Waz goin on?? What else is written in the otter news?? And yes once an addict always an addict. So these feeling arer perfectly normal. We just need to refocus ourselves. And to me it seems your doing just that! So keep it up and keep on rollin!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 23 Feb 2010 19:22 #55021

sci1977 Current streak: 438 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 895 Karma: 0	imtrying25 wrote on 23 Feb 2010 18:50: SB!! How ya doing?? Waz goin on?? What else is written in the otter news?? And yes once an addict always an addict. So these feeling arer perfectly normal. We just need to refocus ourselves. And to me it seems your doing just that! So keep it up and keep on rollin! well said! SB, loved the post today!!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 23 Feb 2010 23:35 #55064

shemirateinayim Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 746 Karma: 0	Yeh It was a beutifull way to commemorate the big day. I hope you start a new trend! You are an inspiration to the whole site, program (4Kedusha), and revolution (4rage). Not merely in constantly reading peoples threads, and always finding something to say, but even more so in being a standing testimony to growth and recovery.
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