hey SB,
i just noticed when i was looking at the 90 day chart that you were on day 84. almost to the 90 and i can only say keep up the great work!!

Thanks, Shlomo! I appreciate your dropping by! Feel free to add any suggestions for a 90-day party!

In other news, focusing on staying positive. Which really shouldn't be that hard. While there's a lot of stress, and a lot of annoying things I have to deal with, there are also a lot of great things going on in my life. I just have to focus on them!

SB i seem to be smelling lots of complaints from you. Hey hey hey, this isnt the real you , is it now??

Cmon cheer up!!!

We wov you!!

Hey there, keep on trucking.  Hope your feeling better today.  Stay positive and it will lead to positive things.

Now that I'm feeling better, in a better mood...

And IT - no complaints, was just disappointed that I couldn't post on all the threads I usually did. But I think things are back to normal, so I can post without getting a headache - that's good!

More email from old friends...not so much a trigger, this time, as just wanting to respond. It's nice to be missed, but does make me kinda sad.

But when we allow doors that should be closed to stay closed, hashem will hopefully open other doors for us, that are FAR better!

"Hey I like to drink a Jack & Coke or two a day and was wondering what are some cheaper alternatives to Jack Daniels? I'm spending more weekly on liquor than I would like to and would like any suggestions of maybe a cheaper lesser known brand that would be just as good."

Just saw that whilst looking around online for info on drinks of the non-soft variety. I was kinda amused...but then saddened. Because to a certain extent, that's us. We'd like to avoid the cost of our addiction, but as much as possible, we don't want to change who we are...

The key is to get in touch with who we really are, so we can face the facts - we can live life without the things we think are crutches.

Just want to point out that Woodford is worth every penny.

:D :D :D

Oh, absolutely - if I end up doing anything from my 90-day thing, I'll have to get some Woodford!

Yeah i can sure tell your feeling better!! I think you were the only guy posting yesterday!! And you did like 100, no??

Keep it up SB!! And please do keep those doors closed. Before you know it hashem will open doors for you that will blow your mind!! We just need to keep our eyes open. Oh and the light on!

keep on trucking today SB!!!

Someone asked me today, "why don't you just block everyone that you don't want to email you?"

The short, easy, and embarrassing answer is that that would would mean blocking a lot of email addresses, some of which I no longer have (since I deleted all the emails). The longer answer is...well, I don't know.

OK, actually, the second answer turns out to be shorter, but you know what I mean. It's the answer that makes me stop and think, and reconsider.

I guess there's a part of me that still wants to hang on a little. Not to open the door, but maybe just keep it open a crack, so I can see what's going on in there? But it's safe, because I know that I won't actually open that door again (derisive snort emoticon).

I know better than that. I'm powerless. Yes, it's nice to be missed, and it's nice to be reminded of that.But that's not why I'm here, that's not who I am, and that's not where I'm going...

OK, need to set aside time to block a bunch of email addresses.

Thinking a bit more about that (I know, thinking, never a good idea, right?)...and not sure.

Up till now, my approach was kinda just to move on. I'd said my goodbyes, and walked away. Now agreed, there is an obvious risk to people emailing me - but I think there's also a certain amount of risk involved in spending lots of time digging up a whole bunch of email addresses and spending time and energy blocking them - it seems a bit like getting involved in the fight too much. Or am I just making excuses?

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I think your right and your making excuses. Pirush; it definitly is gonna be a trigger to dig up old email addresses and have these things on our mind. But we need to do all actions that we can. Maybe do it while talking to someone on the phone, this way you wont play hanky panky. I dont mean he has to know what your doing but to basiclly keep you busy! Maybe even someone who your in touch with on the forum and like keep him updated throughout the phone call like, ok i just blocked antoher etc etc.

Hatzlacha and do what you feel best!!!

mybe have your computer whitelisted, for the time you are deleting those emails. Your struggle to block them should protect you from contacting them. And the filter will stop you from acting out with the rush of emottions.  Mybe have someone tie your hands too  :D

But back to being serious, you can have the filter gabai reduce your filter level after you finish the task.