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Re: making the silent battle...not. 27 Jan 2010 19:52 #48932

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Don't write fiction, write torah. Pick a ma'asah in shas.  Then if you like doing it, pick the a peice of the parshah. It CAN be written out of order, and even if you lack an illustrator, just write the books in a way that parents could propperly "bring torah to life".  Halevai children would beg daddy to read 'parshas Vyigash" instead of 'winni the poo' !!    But we need talent to do it! And by takent I mean you.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 27 Jan 2010 21:51 #48954

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shemirateinayim wrote on 27 Jan 2010 19:52:

Don't write fiction, write torah. Pick a ma'asah in shas.  Then if you like doing it, pick the a peice of the parshah. It CAN be written out of order, and even if you lack an illustrator, just write the books in a way that parents could propperly "bring torah to life".  Halevai children would beg daddy to read 'parshas Vyigash" instead of 'winni the poo' !!    But we need talent to do it! And by takent I mean you.
Sorry SA, I think it's better to write fiction.
The main thing is to keep the readers interested, and show them emotions you want them to have. I went till 21 without knowing what it meant to actually like H-shem, and not just be 'thankful' for all the presets he gives me. If the topic is based on good and healthy Jewish ideas and feelings, that's more than enough to do a great service for Klal Yisroel.
I find most Jewish true stories to be interesting, only because I already know who the characters are.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Jan 2010 16:34 #49156

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Dunno about the story writing.

I was talking to a friend of mine that works with people that have developmental disabilities. So, he was waking up one of the residents in his home, and the guy refused to get out of bed. Kept saying, "I want to, but it's just too hard - I can't!"

When he told me about this, I immediately realized that...that's us. Sure, the guy could get out of bed, but it's difficult. And he gets caught up and focuses on how much he's tired and sleepy, or cold, and doesn't want to get up...and he says that he can't.

We feel the same way sometimes. Things are so tempting, and the drive is so strong, we start dreaming, thinking, and we realize that it's just impossible to keep fighting. But I have to stop and remind myself that in a lot of ways, I'm exactly the same as the mentally retarded (and I use that as a technical term) guy. I make the same excuses, I have the same flaws in my thinking.

More importantly, though, is the truth - which is that he DOES have the strength to get out of bed; he just doesn't realize it.

We DO have the strength to be free - we just don't realize it. The chains around our wrists are just as much an illusion as the rest of our sick lust. We can snap them easily and move on to a free life. If only we realized that we could...
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Jan 2010 16:40 #49162

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I think the more you write in your own thread the more you actually understand that you can get up and out of the bed.  That you really have the ability to overcome anything.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Jan 2010 16:45 #49164

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Even more so when you read through your own old pages...
Don't you have a post about that somewhere sci?
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Jan 2010 16:54 #49171

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Yep, he does...
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Jan 2010 17:26 #49185

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The politically correct term is 'Developmentally Delayed'

Nice thought, you summed me up pretty well. this goes way beyond lazy, it's the burnt-in mindset of an addict.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Jan 2010 18:33 #49194

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Hey SB, I realized something else about your post today.  If we have a good mindset or a routine we follow everyday it makes it easier.  Sometimes your actual mindset is where you end up looking to slip or fall. 
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Jan 2010 18:46 #49199

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Sci - very true - that was part of what I realized.

SE - sorry, bro, but the term is "developmental disability." As in, OMRDD - Office of mental retardation and developmental disability.

Another thought, regarding the stories...I don't think that was even a slip, for me, but it was certainly an urge. But what seemed like a bad thing at the time, led me to delete the stories, and take steps forward.

So it should be with all things that seem bad at the time, for all of us.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Jan 2010 23:50 #49330

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Forward is always good.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 29 Jan 2010 00:50 #49364

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Hey Sb wat up?? How you be?? Sounds like your doing great. so happy. how was the celebration??
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 29 Jan 2010 00:56 #49370

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Just went out with a non-GYE friend (though one who knows my situation).

No one else wanted to do anything! :'( You guys in Eretz Yisroel are so lucky that everyone has the guts to come out of the woodwork for a kumzitz!

B"H, things are going well. Job, being clean, learning (may have yet another chavrusa - woohoo! Less time, but more learning? Worth it!) - everything seems to be going pretty smoothly.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 29 Jan 2010 00:58 #49374

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Things sound great SB. im so happy for you. Really. And i posted elsewhere not sure you saw it. If i would be in the states i would most definitly have joined you for the celebration. Not because i care but only cuz i like going out, ya see?? :D :D
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 29 Jan 2010 02:27 #49427

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Absolutely. 

I saw your mazal tov post - thanks! It's nice knowing that you would have come if you were around!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 29 Jan 2010 09:12 #49480

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silentbattle wrote on 29 Jan 2010 02:27:

Absolutely. 

I saw your mazal tov post - thanks! It's nice knowing that you would have come if you were around!
Andthe next time it visit the oonited states we are gonna make up for it!! Deal??
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