The lieutenant is back! Good to have you back SB.

-Yiddle

Thanks Yiddle...

Also special thanks to Mom, Steve, Sci (of course ), Me3, Habib, Trying, Theone, and Guard...And thanks to Ano for a well-timed call, and a chance to talk things over...truly thinking about what someone needs...incredible!

Thanks again, you guys. Your support and caring really helped.

By the way...although my count is in the mid-50s right now, I'm closing in on my (for me) real 90 days. Trying to think if I should do something for that...about a week left.

YOUR back and better than ever.  Welcome to the nut bin.  How else would the best thread on GUE continue?  Keep on going and remember we all here for each other. 

SB, you are the bomb!! Have a wonderful and delicious shabbos!!!  ;D ;D

Sci - thanks. I know. (sheepish grin emoticon)

Ano - U2(also a good band) - enjoy your gefilte tofu...

silentbattle wrote on 15 Jan 2010 15:29:
Great to have you back....
Shkoyach for visiting my thread.
I'm not sure I got this 90-50 shtickle though. Can you be masbir?

Hope everyone had a great shabbos...

KG - sure, I'll be masbir - for me, looking at p*&n and mz"L was a bit of a habit, and something i never even considered fighting really. Unfortunately.

However, my major issue was much worse - I had actually been meeting people in real, Rachamana litzlan. The further away I get from it, the more i realize how truly crazy it was.

So for me, being free from that for 90 days is my first major step forward.

Obviously, I hope to soon have another milestone, as I pass 90 days free on the WOH!

As far as the 90 day thing, I don't see it as the be-all and end-all. But, 1) it's 90 days without doing actions that are both an aveirah, and unhealthy as all get-out, 2) it means a certain amount of distance from unhealthy actions, and 3) it's getting out of a habit. The more time we spend not doing it, and developing healthier habits, the better off we are.

OTR - thanks - coming from you, that means a lot!

Had a weird, yet very encouraging dream friday night - without going into details, two girls offered to, ah, "get to know" me, and well - in my dream, I could feel myself struggling, and eventually, I said no!

Woohoo!

Glad your doing well.  Keep it up!!!

silentbattle wrote on 17 Jan 2010 21:09:


That's the spirit! Be happy when we succeed even when we dont control it. I did hear somewhere that a dream has something to do with something that happened that day so maybe you had a great battle with the YH that day, who knows...

Keep it up bro!

-Yiddle

With every urge that you overcome to not watch a video, you get a schar EQUAL to every dollar pumped into the industry. Every hour and ounce of talent, creativity, humor, and artistic design!!

With every urge you overcome not to look at p__n, you get schar EQUAL to all the effort, talent, money, creativity, and hours of photo-shoots that goes into the GLOBAL INDUSTRY.

And you get a level of kedusha equal to the tumah.

Everyone that gets to 90 days, is truly a tzaddik. If we only worked on our other areas (LH, Emmes, Halacha) this SA forum would be full of tzaddikim!!

Source: R tzadok in tzidkas Hatzaddik (heard on shiur from R Efraim Waxman)

Wow, SA - thank you! It's incredible, and a great reminder of just how amazing every second that we win is!

silentbattle wrote on 18 Jan 2010 15:01:
How very true...
I (and I imagine most of us) tend to get so caught up in the big goal, that in the process don't realize the magnitude and power of yes - thousands of times "NO" was said. And each of them add up, and every second of restraint adds up.
Most importantly, when someone has to C"V look at his situation after a fall, and all he sees is the last few moments of the whole story, and only sees the fall, that's not only "missing the point" or "having the wrong perspective". It's straight up not true. It's seeing something that's not there.
You have to look at all the time you won vs the few seconds that you didn't...
Oh boy, if only it was that simple in real life....

silentbattle wrote on 17 Jan 2010 00:56:


WOW WOW WOW.
ive just seen a bit of your thread, and i want to tell you that  i see you now as a really soldier of HASHEM.  8)
BOMB!
your journey from your position is the reall journey.
in spite of your habit ("rachamana lizlan"  ;D ;D) you still post here as a mechazeck (give power to..) and not mechuzak (get power from..), very very impressive.

i wish you luck man.