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Re: making the silent battle...not. 04 May 2011 05:29 #105097

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Under pressure. Need to make decisions that I'm not sure about.

The other people in my life are affected by my indecision, and it doesn't make them happy. That puts more pressure on me.

Had a fleeting thought about acting out. I realize the insanity of that. What's the line? There is no situation so bad that a little Lusting can't make worse?
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 04 May 2011 07:56 #105103

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Hatzlocho raba with whatever it is you must decide SB.
Daven for siyata dishmaya.
Hashem is addicted to you! Feel His hugs!"Sheva yipol tzaddik VKUM"
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 04 May 2011 13:59 #105110

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to echo Mom, wishing you the clarity and strength to do the very best.
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 04 May 2011 16:02 #105122

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"to echo Mom, wishing you the clarity and strength to do the very best."


...and this is an echo of ZemirosShabbos.  ;D
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 04 May 2011 18:24 #105148

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Lieutenant in Guardani brigade should be able to handle some pressure.

Remember - you are never making the decision alone. Just talk to him.


--HM
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 04 May 2011 21:31 #105184

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Welcome to real life. It's not easy sometimes.

You are not alone, use your wife for the right things (like for shameless admission of your doubts), and use your friends too (like for shameless admission of your crazy feelings and goofy destructive thoughts), especially your Best and only Eternal Friend (like for everything).
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 05 May 2011 18:25 #105254

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Thank you very much for your support, everyone!

I need to work on davening more, and better. It's true. I need to learn to rely on Him.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 06 May 2011 13:00 #105361

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Hatslocho SB, maybe out indecisiveness comes from a fear of making the wrong decision. IE perfectionism. We forget that Hashem is really the One running the show and we get too involved with our own part in the play...
Just talking from my perspectvie...

Have a great shabbos!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 08 May 2011 06:23 #105417

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Hey SB. Checking in. Sounds like some stuff is going on, and that you're working through it. Bhatzlacha.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 08 May 2011 18:05 #105446

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Thanks, Sturggle. It isn't easy, but knowing you're there helps a bit!

Reb Honest - absolutely. My indecision certainly does come from my fear of making a wrong decision, but not because I'm looking for perfection. Just some basic happiness, and I'm not sure if the choices I make will lead me toward that, or away from it.

Is this the right choice, the best choice that i can make right now?
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 11 May 2011 18:55 #105716

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..... Throwing a "Hello" right back at you!!!!   


It is good that you are never too busy to say hello!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 15 May 2011 07:21 #105945

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Thank you Hashem for keeping me clean. Thank you for helping me see how good my life is. Thank you for helping me see how lucky I am to have the wife i have, who helps me grow.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 15 May 2011 13:52 #105957

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Amen, Amen, Amen!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 17 May 2011 14:44 #106150

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beautiful sb! and its great to see you post when you're in a good zone, I know I find it tough to post when things are going well. I think that's because when things are going well, I tend to forget there ever was a problem...

maybe that's what Dovid Hamelech means when he says he keeps "chotosi negdi somid". We must remember we are people with a netiyoh to lust always, even when things seem to be going well.

Sorry, that my post kinda grew...

Much love from a mouse!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 17 May 2011 18:34 #106179

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Thanks, HM!

But who said things are going well?  ;D

Things are pretty tough and stressful right now, and I'm reminding myself of the good things, and thanking Hashem for them - because even when things are difficult, I've still got a lot of good things in my life!
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