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Re: making the silent battle...not. 29 Mar 2011 18:48 #102478

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We're all here because we've already played russian roulette, , with all the chambers loaded. Had enough of that game, thanks! 

Love ya, bro!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 29 Mar 2011 19:01 #102485

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tzaddik90 wrote on 27 Mar 2011 18:13:

russian roulette,
it solves everything.......


Only one out of six times though....
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 01 Apr 2011 14:08 #102922

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I see your still around.  I have been on in a long time.  KUTGW!!  Hope all is well.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 12 Apr 2011 17:22 #103978

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Thank you, Sci!

I had an epiphany a few days ago that I wanted to share. My wife wanted to pass me something, but she was tamei, so she asked her younger sister to pass it to me. Sister wanted to know why we couldn't pass it directly, and we just said, "oh, it's not comfortable."

So afterward, i was trying to think of a good naswer that I could use in the future, in any situation. And i realized that every situation is going to be different, and so I'll need to think things up on the spot.

And then I realized, hey - that's life. We'd love to take care of everything so that we never have to deal with difficult situations or nisyonos ever again. But life is about constantly facing challenging situations, and dealing with them as best we can.

That's not to say that we shouldn't try to prepare - anyone who knows me here knows that I feel that preparation before the battle is a huge part of success. But no matter what, different situations will be different, and there's no way to remove temptation entirely. And that's good, because life, all of life, is about living life and growing.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 12 Apr 2011 17:36 #103982

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hi SB,
nice to 'see' you here again
and thanks for that thought, very true and clear
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 13 Apr 2011 08:05 #104048

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hows the little ninja's?
the kunoichi?
how is old man hatsuumi

the waterfall?

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Re: making the silent battle...not. 14 Apr 2011 17:22 #104221

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Life is good, B"H. How am I dealing with it?

Could be better. I find myself doubting myself, my abilities. Need to move forward, but afraid to.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 15 Apr 2011 06:20 #104289

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silentbattle wrote on 14 Apr 2011 17:22:

Life is good, B"H. How am I dealing with it?

Could be better. I find myself doubting myself, my abilities. Need to move forward, but afraid to.


Good luck.

--Eye.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 15 Apr 2011 08:18 #104295

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Hey SB
Be the Ninja. Analyse your fears and notice they are not rational.
There is no failure. So what's the worst that happens if you try something and it doesn't work out as planned? The worst that can happen is that you DONT learn from it.
Sometimes we're afraid to move forward because we can't see what's ahead of us - That's not the Ninja way.

There is only success ahead of you. Picture it.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 21 Apr 2011 06:00 #104398

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Thank you, Eye. And Toadd - VERY true!

Thank you!

I'm realizing more and more how much I try to escape from my fears, even without acting out. It's mind-boggling.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 21 Apr 2011 16:48 #104418

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achi!
moadim lsimcha!
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 22 Apr 2011 05:38 #104441

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Thank you, brother!

I also feel very strongly that pesach is a time for appreciation and grattitude toward hashem for whatever freedom we have in life.

I look back and realize how fortunate I am to have received my freedom directly from hashem's hands.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Apr 2011 16:59 #104616

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Just dropping in.

Been realizing even more how terrible my actions were. The further away I get from my disease, the more I can glimpse the true magnitude of my mistakes.

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Re: making the silent battle...not. 28 Apr 2011 18:08 #104620

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silentbattle wrote on 28 Apr 2011 16:59:

Just dropping in.

Been realizing even more how terrible my actions were. The further away I get from my disease, the more I can glimpse the true magnitude of my mistakes.


The gemora in Nedarim 49b says that R”Y had 24 “Batai Kisous between his house and the Beis Hamederash. Reb Shmuel Kaminetsky Shlit”a quoted mefarshim as explaining that Beis Hakisai is a remez to tikkun hamidos. He explained that the similarity that as long as the “bad stuff” is inside a person, he sees no imperfection in himself… only when it comes outside does a person see how disgusting what was inside of him was…


(I also heard a similar approach on Pesach as to why the Yetzer Hora is Seor shebissa, by itself it is inedible and disgusting, but it can mix in and make things look appealing.)
I am not big enough to not do something I WANT to do because I know it is wrong, but I've been around long enough not to want to do many things, even though they are really enticing at the first glance.
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Re: making the silent battle...not. 01 May 2011 21:48 #104826

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Absolutely. We have an opportunity, as we get some distance, to see things we weren't able to before, because we don't like to see imperfections in ourselves.

And even then, it isn't always easy.
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