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So hard 17 Jan 2017 14:22 #303369

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it's so hard.
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Re: So hard 17 Jan 2017 17:17 #303407

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Yeah, it is. It's #*^#(!$ hard.
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Re: So hard 17 Jan 2017 18:28 #303420

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It gets easier.

If it doesn't, you're doing it wrong.

Re: So hard 18 Jan 2017 00:37 #303436

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Shlomo24 wrote on 17 Jan 2017 17:17:
Yeah, it is. It's #*^#(!$ hard.

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Re: So hard 18 Jan 2017 07:21 #303460

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thatslife wrote on 17 Jan 2017 14:22:
it's so hard.

I think your username contains the answer to this.
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Re: So hard 18 Jan 2017 14:02 #303492

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Singularity wrote on 18 Jan 2017 07:21:

thatslife wrote on 17 Jan 2017 14:22:
it's so hard.

I think your username contains the answer to this.

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Re: So hard 18 Jan 2017 17:15 #303503

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i do try to make that my attitude in life, just had a really hard night holding back.  

thanks anyway:blush:
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Re: So hard 18 Jan 2017 17:18 #303505

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and btw i was actually thinking that it's quite ironic for me to say that with such a username, i still needed to get it off my chest, if you know what i mean...
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Re: So hard 18 Jan 2017 17:19 #303506

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i think i was trying to ask if it's normal for it to be so hard. is it?
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Re: So hard 18 Jan 2017 17:34 #303508

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Kol haschalos kashos. It was hard for me in the beginning, and even now I go through hard times.
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Re: So hard 19 Jan 2017 10:18 #303573

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thatslife wrote on 18 Jan 2017 17:19:
i think i was trying to ask if it's normal for it to be so hard. is it?

I was listening to a shiur once, no idea who, or when, don't quote me...

The rav explained the plight of some guy. But he had it real tough. No money, his wife died R'L. then his child got really sick. Something to this effect. Real, traumatic stuff.

And he cried to the rav, obviously on the rocks with his relationship with Hashem. He asked why it was so hard. Why life was so much full of despair?
And he replied like this:

"You know, it's not supposed to be like that. A normal person doesn't go through such anguish. It's not normal. You're supposed to have a good life. You're a special case."

Now I know this contradicts the Rashi at the beginning of Vayeishev but I don't think it necessarily means it's wrong. We're supposed to be happy, functioning people. Life's supposed to be something worth getting up for in the morning. And such trauma is really an exception to the norm. Else we'd all collapse.

It is hard. But it's not normal. If it's too hard, that is. 
It's hard for me. But I'm an addict. I'm not normal. So it fits.
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Re: So hard 22 Jan 2017 19:52 #303834

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I was listening to a shiur once, no idea who, or when, don't quote me...

The rav explained the plight of some guy. But he had it real tough. No money, his wife died R'L. then his child got really sick. Something to this effect. Real, traumatic stuff.

And he cried to the rav, obviously on the rocks with his relationship with Hashem. He asked why it was so hard. Why life was so much full of despair?
And he replied like this:

"You know, it's not supposed to be like that. A normal person doesn't go through such anguish. It's not normal. You're supposed to have a good life. You're a special case."

Now I know this contradicts the Rashi at the beginning of Vayeishev but I don't think it necessarily means it's wrong. We're supposed to be happy, functioning people. Life's supposed to be something worth getting up for in the morning. And such trauma is really an exception to the norm. Else we'd all collapse.

It is hard. But it's not normal. If it's too hard, that is. 
It's hard for me. But I'm an addict. I'm not normal. So it fits.

 hashem only gives us nisyonos that we can take that means that even with those niyonos your supposed to be happy, no? cause if you cant then hashem wouldn't have given those nisyonos to you. i really dont agree with that rav
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Re: So hard 22 Jan 2017 19:52 #303835

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i just had a fall. what now?
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Re: So hard 22 Jan 2017 20:04 #303836

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Re: So hard 22 Jan 2017 20:09 #303837

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obviously what i did till now didn't work; if it worked i wouldn't be asking this question. so i dont actually know what works
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