This post is just so I am notified of new replies on this thread. Thanks.

Shteeble wrote on 11 Jan 2017 23:37:

Ok

Wouldn't hitting the subscribe button do the same thing?

jewishfiltergeek wrote on 12 Jan 2017 04:19:

no.
subscribe button sends you emails with every new post.
i don't want that.
i just want to see it when i click "my replies"

Can someone please tell me what this KARMA thing next to everyone's name is all about? Thanks

Shteeble wrote on 12 Jan 2017 09:33:

Thanks! I think someone needs to set up a thread about how to use the forum. When to use the quote, reply, or reply topic, spoilers, etc...
I see a lot of people struggling with these issues.

GYE 17 For DUMMIES

Karma is like kavod. If you're actively pursuing it, you're probably not getting it. People raise each other's karma when they particularly like a post or something.

That should be a simple matter for frum yidden.

mirror wrote on 18 Jan 2017 02:51:


Everything requires work, and this has to be answered honestly.   

It's a simple matter for frum yidden as lip service only. To really believe takes years of hard industrious work. For example if one really believes it would be impossible to speak loshon hora or be dishonest on a tax return etc etc. and the list is very long. It is an admirable benefit of 12 steps (for some people) that one becomes more cognizant of the Ribono Shel Olam and develops a close relationship with Him.

I can and have answered yes many times, and I have no freaking idea if I was being honest. That's just one more little side-effect of years of begin wrapped up in yourself.

Thanks to Cordnoy, I stopped worrying about it because worrying about it gets me nowhere. Dov would likely say that worrying about it is just another self-obsession driven by arrogance (and if he wouldn't say it, I'll say it instead).

The only note I would add is that addicts (even the fake ones) are often very black and white. I would like to believe that this not as simple. Even belief is a matter of degree. I could be wrong, but as I said I am not going to invest a lot of time wondering about it. The book does seem to imply it's as simple as yes or no - nu nu, kasha, not tyuvta. Maybe a basic willingness to accept it might be true is all they're looking for, to weed out the atheists (v'chol hakorei bishmom). Jews are b'teva maaminim, deep underneath all the accumulated junk.

cordnoy wrote on 12 Jan 2017 03:00:

whoa that escalated quickly

Thanks shteeble I didn't know of the power of the "My Replies" tab

Well we are at day 36 and thank G-d still clean. This experience has been tremendous. For the first time in my life i have had who to reach out to for help; people who really understood me, having been through it themselves. Unlike speaking with a therapist where there is the constant background feeling of "he is normal while i am sick/bad", i spoke with people who made me feel normal and even good about myself. I have been able to open up in ways that i never could before. I was even able to be in contact with some of the chevra about how to prepare properly for my wife's mikva night. Instead of that discussion being a trigger, it helped me focus on giving to my wife in a way not done before, and i was free! There was real intimacy and no need for the actual act.from my end (of course if she requests it we are suppossed to do it). I can't thank all of you enough - those who i have gotten to know by phone and email - and even those who take out the time to respond on the forum. Hashem should bless all of you with hatzlocha. Good Shabbos. Remove File Insert Place your cursor where you want the attachment to display in your message, then press INSERT Note: BBcode and smileys are still usable.