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Re: Elul Intiative 17 Aug 2015 16:22 #261932

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Re: Elul Intiative 17 Aug 2015 18:01 #261952

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Its a nice idea but due to the kids my wife goes to sleep when i go out to learn at about 9:00. I can't go to sleep when she does or I won't learn anything. I first come home from work at 8.


Sorry I had to add the bold underline, to show how insidious the YH is in creating the mindset that neshamaincharge was referring to with his suggestion.

If the suggestion of going to sleep with your wife is likely to be helpful, it would be an interesting point to ponder if HKBH prefers that over your learning, but it doesn't have to be either/or. For me, if I go to sleep earlier, I can wake up earlier, so my learning would just get rescheduled. Sometimes I learn better in the morning bc my mind is fresher.

Hope I wasn't too strong, sounded like you were looking to make changes.
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Re: Elul Intiative 17 Aug 2015 18:16 #261956

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Yes point well taken. I would say that it won't work so well with me since I watch the kids in the morning. But I have been thinikng about your idea and it certainlly doesn't have to be an all or nothing aprroach. On nites when my wife does go to sleep a bit later than 9, I can try to shorten my nite seder a bit and steal a little time in the morning for those situations.

I should add that it won't necessarly help me avoid Z"L. But I do agree that 1) I won't be on the internet. 2) Even if she is assur I can have a shmuzing partner while in bed. This will help me fall asleep and get my mind off the addiction.

In a nutshell, I am in no way ruling out your idea at least for some of the time.

Re: Elul Intiative 17 Aug 2015 18:27 #261959

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Do you have filters or is that irrelevant to you?
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Re: Elul Intiative 17 Aug 2015 18:39 #261964

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Waydon I love this thread and the Disccussion.

Keep it up.

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Re: Elul Intiative 17 Aug 2015 19:05 #261970

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eslassos,

I have whatever my work provides. Its my work computer. It is a pretty good filter. the problem is it ain't fool proof. Adding stronger filters is irrealvant as its out of my control. I have no admin rights to download k-9. In a large company like mine you can't change it
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Re: Elul Intiative 17 Aug 2015 19:26 #261972

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Re: Elul Intiative 18 Aug 2015 14:45 #262088

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waydown wrote:
Yes point well taken. I would say that it won't work so well with me since I watch the kids in the morning. But I have been thinikng about your idea and it certainlly doesn't have to be an all or nothing aprroach. On nites when my wife does go to sleep a bit later than 9, I can try to shorten my nite seder a bit and steal a little time in the morning for those situations.


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