More on Self Acceptance
Okay,so I know the mirror exercise is a little hard.
What worked for me is this:
Look at the mirror and see the person staring back as another person.
Look at that person.
See his/her qualities,the good and the bad.
Try to understand and empathize with the person.
See what brought the person to be who they are.
Feel their pain.
Once you accept the person,say to yourself:
That's me.
Not bad

Say out loud:
"I accept myself, in this moment, just the way I am"



Hope this helps

You are a gift to the world.
What are your gifts to the world?
What does the world gain by having a Uri?

I would like for anyone who feels they can post to post the following:

"I, Uri, accept myself, in this moment, just the way I am."

Say it.
And mean it.
I know this is flaky.
But I've got news for everyone.
I am a flake.
Now any volunteers?

"I, Uri, accept myself, in this moment, just the way I am."

Seriously, this is an amazing idea.


Not only in the mirror, but if we try to view ourselves from a diff point of view we'd be shocked at what we discover.

uri i would say it,
only i can't say it and mean it.
so i think i'm gonna take a backseat in this thread and just watch what's going on

Some deep stuff going on here.

Im out of my depth.

KUTGW

TrYiNg wrote on 27 Oct 2009 07:42:


thank you,trying,for being the first one
i didnt think uri was such a girly name though
no offense

habib613 wrote on 27 Oct 2009 08:13:


it will be weird in the beginning.
you wont so much mean it.
after years of hating yourself you think loving yourself will happen in one day?
what've u got to lose??

I tried saying it, it just didn't have the ring of truth... Hmmm.... Maybe I should try my name instead?

lol R' Guard

Uri wrote on 27 Oct 2009 12:20:

routine, security

what's gonna happen next time i mess up. i won't know what to say to myself.
and i hate not knowing what to do.

habib613 wrote on 27 Oct 2009 13:32:


Habib,
I am very impressed
Read what you wrote.
You have a good understanding of how you cope.
But don't you think that you've put yourself in this cycle.
The security you have now is depression and low sense of self and bottling up?
Shver. (weak)
It can be different,dear sister.
Just let go of this whole cycle.
And start loving yourself.
Nothing else matters.
TrYiNg loves you.
Letakain loves you.
Mom loves you.
The rest do too,but i cant say that  :-\
When will you start loving yourself?
No offense.
But your cycle SUCKS!
Next time you fall go outside of yourself and respond as you would if someone else told u they fell.
And be sympathetic to yourself and your struggles.
Come on sister!
Break this thing!!!

I will bli neder try to stop myself from saying 'i hate you' at least once a day.
ok?
you convinced me

chill,sista!
slow down.
maybe start with something small?

Uri, you've got talent!  Why not get the appropriate training, and use that talent to help others in a professional setting?  In other words, you'll be able to do what you're doing now, but get paid for it! 

habib613 wrote on 27 Oct 2009 13:49:


Okay, does this come easier:

"mom 7up loves me bacuase she sees how special I really am"

thanks Rebbe
Have I ever told u how much I love you,btw?
Even if you live at the top of a mountain and always walk there during the DC calls
And thank you,btw,for not editing my posts lately
I admire you